It's been a long time since I've been this excited about a parenting book! 12 Simple Secrets Real Moms Know is not earth-shattering or new age. It's simply a "getting back to the basics" book that every mom needs to read. Dr. Michele Borba's common sense approach to parenting will provide you with all the information you need to know to be a "real mom" to great kids instead of going crazy on the supermom track.
There is so much information out there on parenting - hundreds of books, hundreds of websites. Never before have moms been so inundated with information and the utter stress of trying to be perfect mothers to perfect kids. Statistics show that we are producing a generation of stressed out and spoiled kids, many of whom are unprepared to handle life when they're out on their own. Dr. Borba believes this trend is ultimately harmful and calls it "over parenting."
Mothering is probably the most important job we'll ever have in our lives. Nothing, absolutely nothing, has as much influence and power over our families and future generations in years to come. Yet there's general agreement among all the hundreds of mothers I've spoken to that something isn't working: our kids aren't thriving as well as we'd hoped, and we are too often suffering from guilt, anxiety, and exhaustion. That's why there's been so much national talk lately and so many books written about the epidemic of Motherhood Mania. Far too many of us are responding to the pressure of this modern myth of mothering as a 24/7 sprint to the finish line. Instead of reconsidering what works and what doesn't, we're trying harder to be perfect. And that isn't working either. ~ Michele Borba, Ed.D.
Dr. Borba uses the first part of her book to explain what a "real mom" is as well as the "sacrificial mom." How DID we get from June Cleaver to Motherhood Mania? Dr. Borba asks us . . .
Is Motherhood Mania worth it? Is it worth all the time and energy and money we're spending? Do our kids really benefit from all these splendid extracurricular activities and stimulating experiences?
All our obsessive and hyper mothering is not helping our kids become happy and mature young adults and may in fact be doing them more harm than good. Let's take a hard look at some more disturbing statistics, this time about our kids . . ..
We're no longer just managing our kids' lives: we're micromanaging their existence, right down to the very last detail. In doing so, we're moving even further away from what really matters when it comes to good mothering.
- One in three American Kids currently suffers from stress-related symptoms
- 83 percent of kids say they are worried about homework and pressure to excel
- Two-thirds of parents say that their own kids are spoiled and that they are to blame
- Half of adolescents surveyed say they have trouble sleeping due to anxiety
- One in two college kids reports feeling so overwhelmed that it is difficult to function
Part two spells out each of Dr. Borba's twelve simple secrets of real mothering:
- A Mother Who Loves Teaches Worth
- A Mother Who Is Firm and Fair Gives Her Children a Moral Code to Live By
- A Mother Who Listens Shows Her Children They Matter
- A Mother Who Is a Good Role Model Gives Her Children an Example Worth Copying
- A Mother Who Teaches Values Inspires Character
- A Mother Who Supports Her Children's Strengths Builds Their Confidence
- A Mother Who Encourages Independence Cultivates Self-Reliance
- A Mother Who Applauds Effort Nurtures Perseverance
- A Mother Who Accepts Her Children's Shortcomings Nurtures Resilience
- A Mother Who Takes Time for Her Children Helps Them Build Strong Relationships
- A Mother Who Laughs Teaches Joy
- A Mother Who Takes Care of Herself Holds Together Her Happy Family
Throughout the book, Dr. Borba includes testimonies from real moms she interviewed for her research. At the end of each "secret," Dr. Borba includes "A Real Mom's Resource Guide" consisting of recommended books and resources as well as steps you can take - simple steps - to make work towards that secret.
We all remembered was not what our moms did, but who they were and how strong (or not) was the connection between mother and child. We remembered the woman herself, or simply "my mother." ~ Michele Borba, Ed.D.
How do YOU want to be remembered by your kids? Let 12 Simple Secrets Real Mom Know: Getting Back to Basics and Raising Happy Kids show you the way to happy kids who will remember a happy mom.
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