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Co-sleeping Poll
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From Gayesy ~

  1. Did you intend to co-sleep? No, as a matter of fact. We weren't against it - it's just that we hadn't even considered it!

  2. If you didn't plan to do so, what changed your mind? We kind of started out of necessity, as Thomas was a very unsettled little guy and would only sleep with a breast firmly in his mouth! Gradually we found out more about co-sleeping and decided that it was definitely the way to go, and we found it was so LOVELY for all of us.

  3. How long did you think you would do it (once you started)? I guess I imagined at the start that Thomas would have been sleeping on his own by now (maybe with us for about two years?? I really can't remember what I thought!), but we are actually so happy that he is still with us!

  4. How long did you do it? (or if you are still going, how long so far) Thomas is still sleeping with us all night every night at 4 1/4 years of age, and he is more than welcome to stay as long as he likes.

  5. What arrangement(s) have you used? At the start we had our queen-size bed up against a wall and Thomas slept either between me and the wall or between me and DH (depending on which breast he was attached to at the time). Then I got sick of having such a hard time getting in and out of bed so we moved the bed out and used a bed rail. Once Thomas was about 14 months old, we bought a single bed to have right next to our queen-size to give us more room and we are still using this arrangement now. DH sleeps on the single bed and Thomas and I sleep right next to him on the queen-size. We have tried putting Thomas on the single bed and me next to him on the queen-size but then I always ended up with him on the single bed! LOL! He really seems to need to be RIGHT next to me!

  6. What is your favorite thing about co-sleeping? The snuggles, being able to stare at my little man so calm and happy, and being able to nurse in comfort. (Oops, sorry, that was more than one thing!)

  7. What is your least favorite thing about co-sleeping? Being kicked in the ribs -- repeatedly!

  8. How do you and your DH get "private time"? When we want to, we wait until Thomas is happily asleep and then slip away into another room. We have a mattress on the floor in Thomas's playroom.

From Ramona ~

  1. Did you intend to co-sleep? No.

  2. If you didn't plan to do so, what changed your mind? It was easier than getting up every 15 minutes because she refused to sleep alone.

  3. How long did you think you would do it (once you started)? A couple of months, until her sleep was more organized.

  4. How long did you do it? (or if you are still going, how long so far) Still co-sleeping at 10 months.

  5. What arrangement(s) have you used? Currently, she sleeps between DH and myself. Before she got rolly, she slept closer to the edge.

  6. What is your favorite thing about co-sleeping? We all get sleep and the night nursing is easy.

  7. What is your least favorite thing about co-sleeping? No room to stretch. We plan on buying a queen or king size very soon.

  8. How do you and your DH get "private time"? I nurse her down, then if I haven't fallen asleep, I get up and go to the living room. That's where we have "our" time.

From Kel ~

  1. Did you intend to co-sleep? Not at first.

  2. If you didn't plan to do so, what changed your mind? It's the only thing that made Riley happy, besides bees.

  3. How long did you think you would do it (once you started)? I didn't give it any thought.

  4. How long did you do it? (or if you are still going, how long so far) We've been co-sleeping since Riley was born, so 2 years.

  5. What arrangement(s) have you used? We've tried a twin bed alongside our queen size bed, but we're back to all four of us in one bed.

  6. What is your favorite thing about co-sleeping? The snuggles.

  7. What is your least favorite thing about co-sleeping? Having to sleep on the edge of the bed.

  8. How do you and your DH get "private time"? LOL After the kids are asleep.

From Emama ~

  1. Did you intend to co-sleep? No

  2. If you didn't plan to do so, what changed your mind? He kept waking up to nurse, and when he reached seven months, he stopped being willing to sleep in his crib. We were up all night long for months and months before "giving in".

  3. How long did you think you would do it (once you started)? We figure we'll be doing it for years.

  4. How long did you do it? (or if you are still going, how long so far) Almost two months so far.

  5. What arrangement(s) have you used? We have a queen mattress, which we recently moved to the floor. DS sleeps in the middle.

  6. What is your favorite thing about co-sleeping? Partly the coziness of us all in one bed; partly not needing to get up to check on ds.

  7. What is your least favorite thing about co-sleeping? Not sleeping right next to DH anymore.

  8. How do you and your DH get "private time"? "After hours".

From SusanH ~

  1. Did you intend to co-sleep? No, we bought a bassinet and had every intention of buying a crib when she was older.

  2. If you didn't plan to do so, what changed your mind? Susy wouldn't sleep in the bassinet and I realized that nursing lying down equals lots of sleep for everyone!

  3. How long did you think you would do it (once you started)? Just a few months -- until she started "sleeping through" (how naive was I??).

  4. How long did you do it? (or if you are still going, how long so far) Almost 15 months and still going strong!

  5. What arrangement(s) have you used? We started with her between DH and me, now she and I sleep on a futon mattress on the living room floor.

  6. What is your favorite thing about co-sleeping? Snuggling and getting lots of rest.

  7. What is your least favorite thing about co-sleeping? I miss DH!

  8. How do you and your DH get "private time"? We sneak away during naps or after she's asleep and go to the big, extra comfy bed that I do miss now that I think of it . . .

From JenT ~

  1. Did you intend to co-sleep? No.

  2. If you didn't plan to do so, what changed your mind? Grace was eating very 1 to 1.5 hours, coupled with the fact that she wasn't a good sleeper. So bringing her to bed meant that we all got a little more rest.

  3. How long did you think you would do it (once you started)? Until she started sleeping through the night . . . which has yet to happen!

  4. How long did you do it? (or if you are still going, how long so far) It's been 14 months now.

  5. What arrangement(s) have you used? She sleeps between me and DH. For about a week, when she was being really restless at night, we tried to have her sleep in her playpen next to our bed . . . but that didn't work. She's sleeping more peacefully now, so it's fine that she's back in bed with us

  6. What is your favorite thing about co-sleeping? Feeling so connected with her, and waking up with her. She is so happy in the morning.

  7. What is your least favorite thing about co-sleeping? Between her and DH, I get woken up a lot by movement and noise.

  8. How do you and your DH get "private time"? It's usually after she's fast asleep and we can move her to her playpen temporarily.

From Sallly ~

  1. Did you intend to co-sleep? Nope, in fact, I swore I wouldn't.

  2. If you didn't plan to do so, what changed your mind? Morgan had been with me for 8 months, I wasn't about to let her go!!! Plus she slept through the night when she was in the bed with us.

  3. How long did you think you would do it (once you started)? Until she is ready to move into her own room, probably at 3 . . .

  4. How long did you do it? (or if you are still going, how long so far) We've co-slept since she was 3 days old.

  5. What arrangement(s) have you used? When we go to bed, she goes to bed, nurses, and sleeps.

  6. What is your favorite thing about co-sleeping? Definitely being close to her and cuddling all night long.

  7. What is your least favorite thing about co-sleeping? The damper it puts on "private time".

  8. How do you and your DH get "private time"? Wait until she is asleep (if he doesn't fall asleep first) and put her in her bassinet or go into another room.

From abuddi ~

  1. Did you intend to co-sleep? NO.

  2. If you didn't plan to do so, what changed your mind? Thought it was kind of ridiculous to get up when what she needed was right there.

  3. How long did you think you would do it (once you started)? Until she starts sleeping thru the night.

  4. How long did you do it? (or if you are still going, how long so far) She isn't sleeping through the night yet and we are still happily co-sleeping at almost 15 months.

  5. What arrangement(s) have you used? I've used the side car thing with the crib -- didn't work too well. Now she starts in her crib in her room and ends up with me.

  6. What is your favorite thing about co-sleeping? Snuggles and having her right there beside me.

  7. What is your least favorite thing about co-sleeping? Sometimes I do end up on the edge of the bed.

  8. How do you and your DH get "private time"? Go to another room

From ladybugsmama ~

  1. Did you intend to co-sleep? No.

  2. If you didn't plan to do so, what changed your mind? My mom helped out by staying 10 days after DD was born, and would take Grace to her room after 2 am feeding because Grace was slow to settle. Mom would doze off while baby slept, then would bring her back to our room. I figured if mom was sleeping with baby, I could too.

  3. How long did you think you would do it (once you started)? We had thought Grace might eventually sleep through the night, and when she did, we would start putting her in a crib in our room, then move it out of our room. She sleeps through about once every month.

  4. How long did you do it? (or if you are still going, how long so far) Grace has a twin bed next to our queen bed, she starts off there and often ends in our bed sometime in the night. She is 16 months old.

  5. What arrangement(s) have you used? Started with a bassinet, then a bedside arms reach co-sleeper. Then our bed had a rail and she slept between me and the rail . . . now her twin is next to our bed, and has rails on the other side and the bottom of the bed.

  6. What is your favorite thing about co-sleeping? Everyone sleeps so much better and more soundly. We sleep well with her in the twin and me on the queen as well. I love waking to her smiling face.

  7. What is your least favorite thing about co-sleeping? Being kicked!

  8. How do you and your DH get "private time"? We go into another room once Grace has settled into a good deep sleep, and have our private time there.

From CJ ~

  1. Did you intend to co-sleep? No!

  2. If you didn't plan to do so, what changed your mind? It worked the best for us -- we all got better sleep and when I went back to work it was a great way to stay more connected. It is also so easy when you are nursing.

  3. How long did you think you would do it (once you started)? 6 months or so.

  4. How long did you do it? (or if you are still going, how long so far) Going on a year -- not sure when we will stop.

  5. What arrangement(s) have you used? Bed rail -- me in the middle. We have a camera monitor so we can keep an eye on him when we are not in there.

  6. What is your favorite thing about co-sleeping? I feel ds is safe and I know exactly what is going on, plus he can nurse whenever he wants to.

  7. What is your least favorite thing about co-sleeping? Stretch out room! Also I am in between two hot bodies (both DH and ds are very warm guys)!

  8. How do you and your DH get "private time"? After ds is asleep in the other room!

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From franw ~
  1. Did you intend to co-sleep? No!

  2. If you didn't plan to do so, what changed your mind? Exhaustion from getting up several times a night.

  3. How long did you think you would do it (once you started)? A couple of weeks.

  4. How long did you do it? (or if you are still going, how long so far) If you count sleeping in the same room as well as the same bed, we're still doing it. Same bed from November until 2 nights ago.

  5. What arrangement(s) have you used? All of us on one big mattress on the floor; and now we are sleeping on our bed (which is "up") and Owen has the spare queen sized mattress. It's a big bedroom (but we keep our clothes elsewhere).

  6. What is your favorite thing about co-sleeping? Cuddles in the middle of the night.

  7. What is your least favorite thing about co-sleeping? Being kicked in the armpits, getting soy milk on your pjs (he is bottle fed).

  8. How do you and your DH get "private time"? Until recently we had one queen sized mattress sideways and a second single mattress across the bottom. We could get "private time" on the bottom mattress without disturbing Owen. Or we waited till morning and plonked him in his playpen in front of a video . . . It must have worked since I'm pregnant! (only 5 weeks).

From bjones ~

  1. Did you intend to co-sleep? Yes. Wasn't really a "plan" -- that's just the way I was raised and so I figured that's how it should be.

  2. If you didn't plan to do so, what changed your mind? n/a

  3. How long did you think you would do it (once you started)? Didn't really think about it. I guess whenever he gets bored of us.

  4. How long did you do it? (or if you are still going, how long so far) He's 4 months old. No plan to stop in the near future.

  5. What arrangement(s) have you used? He tucks in between us now (when I was nursing, I switched sides through the night).

  6. What is your favorite thing about co-sleeping? In the morning, when we get to wake up to his happy babble and smiles!

  7. What is your least favorite thing about co-sleeping? I worry that maybe he'll never want to leave! (but I know someday he will on his own)

  8. How do you and your DH get "private time"? We put the baby down to bed around 8pm and then we go to our basement rec room and hang out there with the monitor on.

From Gwen ~

  1. Did you intend to co-sleep? No I didn't plan to.

  2. If you didn't plan to do so, what changed your mind? The first night home I checked her in the crib even in between breastfeeding times and did not sleep a wink. I knew by the second night she needed to be next to me. So I bought her a wedge and she started co-sleeping.

  3. How long did you think you would do it (once you started)? Till she wanted her own bed.

  4. How long did you do it? (or if you are still going, how long so far) Well our sleeping arrangements are weird now. Her and I sleep on the living room floor together because she was crawling out of bed in her sleep. I am tiring of the floor so am torn on what to do next. I LOVE co-sleeping.

  5. What arrangement(s) have you used? I could write a book on this. First all three of us slept in bed. Then Dh moved to the couch because she is a mover. Then she started falling out of bed with him not there, so her and I moved out to the living room floor. When we came to the living room, DH went back to the bed. First Savannah and I slept on a sleeping bag, now we have a small foam pad we crash on. I want to try all three of us again, but I know DH will feel crowded again so I don't know what to do.

  6. What is your favorite thing about co-sleeping? Snuggling her. Having peace of mind that she is ok and beside me. Not having to go far when she wakes and needs me. Just the overall closeness.

  7. What is your least favorite thing about co-sleeping? Having to sleep on the floor and having less intimate time with my DH.

  8. How do you and your DH get "private time"? Whenever we can. Usually when she finally goes to sleep.

From CatherineS ~

  1. Did you intend to co-sleep? No

  2. If you didn't plan to do so, what changed your mind? Not getting enough sleep! Once we started co-sleeping with Jonathan, DH and I were able to get the sleep I needed and felt better physically and mentally.

  3. How long did you think you would do it (once you started)? I thought we'd co-sleep for about 2 years but wasn't sure how I'd feel later so left it "open"

  4. How long did you do it? (or if you are still going, how long so far) Jonathan is 20 months, and we love co-sleeping with him. We can't imagine stopping anytime soon. I imagine he'll be in our room until he tells us he wants to be in his own room . . . and then I'll miss him dearly!!

  5. What arrangement(s) have you used? Once we started co-sleeping, we put him in our bed and used the crib as a sidecar (we took one side off and put it next to our bed at the same level) for safety. He didn't sleep in it, but it was nice to have it there for my peace of mind (in case he would roll). Then, once he stopped waking at night we took down the crib and put a twin mattress next to ours (both are directly on the floor) and he sleeps there. Sometimes he rolls over onto our bed and every now and then he climbs over me to sleep between us, but usually he sleeps contentedly on his bed! These days I will often wake in the night and reach over to him and rest my hand on his back as I drift off back to sleep. Scott and I are about to change places (to get ready for the baby, who will be either in between Scott and me, in between me and a sidecar, or in the sidecar next to me) and Scott will be next to Jonathan. I'm going to miss being next to being next to Jonathan very much.

  6. What is your favorite thing about co-sleeping? Waking up in the middle of the night or in the morning and seeing Jonathan and Scott all snuggled up together. Scott has told me many times how much he loves to wake up to see Jonathan and me snuggled up together!

  7. What is your least favorite thing about co-sleeping? When I have a cold, I worry sometimes that I'm disrupting DH's and Jonathan's sleep by coughing and such. Usually neither of them even stir, but I still feel bad!

  8. How do you and your DH get "private time"? When Jonathan is asleep, we have our choice of any other room (than the one he's in) in the house!

From Nipper ~

  1. Did you intend to co-sleep? Not really, but we never ruled it out.

  2. If you didn't plan to do so, what changed your mind? It was/is so much easier than getting up in the middle of the night to nurse.

  3. How long did you think you would do it (once you started)? 3 or 4 months.

  4. How long did you do it? (or if you are still going, how long so far) 8.5 months and no signs of stopping soon.

  5. What arrangement(s) have you used? All three of us in our queen size bed with DD in the middle. Sometimes she starts off in her playpen in our room.

  6. What is your favorite thing about co-sleeping? Night nursing is so easy, I don't even have to be fully awake.

  7. What is your least favorite thing about co-sleeping? Lack of "private time" with DH.

  8. How do you and your DH get "private time"? Either after DD is asleep or in the shower in the morning before DD wakes up.

From Jer ~

  1. Did you intend to co-sleep? Not initially, but from my third trimester on, definitely. Before that I considered it, because I'm an anthropologist and was aware of other cultures who do it, but I stupidly wasted my money on a crib anyway. Oh, well--the cats loved it!

  2. If you didn't plan to do so, what changed your mind? The thought of my tiny, helpless precious baby all alone in that big crib. Also (selfish me!) I was definitely breastfeeding, and I didn't want to climb out of bed several times a night!

  3. How long did you think you would do it (once you started)? As long as Rhi wanted to--she's been with us every single night of her life, and she'll stay there as long as she wants.

  4. How long did you do it? (or if you are still going, how long so far) Well, Rhi just turned 17 months . . .

  5. What arrangement(s) have you used? Just me, DH, and Rhi in a queen-size bed.

  6. What is your favorite thing about co-sleeping? Waking up with my bug!

  7. What is your least favorite thing about co-sleeping? Rhi wanting to cuddle when it's HOT!!!!

  8. How do you and your DH get "private time"? Not an issue right now.

From dini ~

  1. Did you intend to co-sleep? Yup.

  2. If you didn't plan to do so, what changed your mind? n/a

  3. How long did you think you would do it (once you started)? Long as he wants.

  4. How long did you do it? (or if you are still going, how long so far) So far, 1.5 weeks!

  5. What arrangement(s) have you used? King-sized bed; daddy arms, mommy arms, mommy chest, between mommy and daddy.

  6. What is your favorite thing about co-sleeping? Snuggle time with daddy and baby.

  7. What is your least favorite thing about co-sleeping? Can't think of one yet.

  8. How do you and your DH get "private time"? Baby just sleeps through it (after all, he's less than two weeks old).

From Cynmom ~
  1. Did you intend to co-sleep? No.

  2. If you didn't plan to do so, what changed your mind? With my oldest daughter, I was too tired to put her back in the crib after I fed her lying down at night. With my second daughter, I've read more research and it just makes sense that this is the way it's supposed to be, so I feel enthusiastic instead of guilty now.

  3. How long did you think you would do it (once you started)? Probably 6 months.

  4. How long did you do it? (or if you are still going, how long so far) Second baby is still with us at 12 months, and 5 year old got invited back into our room shortly after baby was born and her jealousy almost disappeared and her behaviour improved. 5 year old's bed is next to where I sleep.

  5. What arrangement(s) have you used? Baby sleeps between my husband and myself during left breast feedings, then sleeps on the edge by big sis' bed during right breast feedings. Every time she stirs, I trade places with her (to change breasts) and latch her on.

  6. What is your favorite thing about co-sleeping? It's easy to get kids to sleep and they wake up so happy in the morning--lots of giggling and hugs. We feel more like a family than we would if any members were left out.

  7. What is your least favorite thing about co-sleeping? I can honestly say there is nothing I dislike.

  8. How do you and your DH get "private time"? We get lots of "private time". It's so easy to get the kids to sleep. We are then open to going downstairs on the couch or showering together (which my husband loves), my kids can sleep so deep that not even a freight train could awaken them, so sometimes our own bed is still an option, and last but not least, on some Saturdays, we have just asked our 5 year old to play with her sister for a little while so Mommy and Da Da can have some "private time". She doesn't know what it is, only that there is something wonderful and private that Mommies and Daddies do and she will find out more when she's older.

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