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Attitudes Towards Breastfeeding!
~ A Message Board Archive

From Gayesy ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? No, but I have had people smile at me. I make a point of going up to women I see BFIP, especially new mums, and give them a verbal pat on the back.

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? No, thankfully!

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? I think that my parents started out neutral (they would have been just as happy if I bottle fed Thomas) but I have just given them little snippets of info over the years and now I think they are more supportive of it, although I think they consider me a nutcase to STILL be giving him the occasional nurse. My sister is, I think, a little put out by it all as she wanted to breastfeed her kids but didn't end up doing so (long story). My brother really doesn't care what I do! LOL!

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? He has been amazingly supportive and is now quite a BF advocate. I think he knows more about it than the average nurse or doctor and has been behind me all the way.

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? At first, I thought it was just about nutrition, that I would stop after 12 months, and that there really wasn't that much difference between breast milk and formula. Now I am well aware of the amazing emotional bond, am all for child-led weaning, and know a fair bit about how great breast milk is.

From MelissaF ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? No, but I've had women say they didn't know how I could do it because they never could get up the courage to. Guess that could be seen both as a compliment and a criticism. I wish you lived near me Gayesy and would give that pat on the back! I'd certainly appreciate it!

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? I've had a couple strange looks, but I could really care less.

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? Family is very supportive although I get the impression that my MIL feels like she would like to see ds more able to be apart from me (won't take EBM!) and worried that we still nurse frequently at night. None of her business though!

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? 110% there for me since the beginning! Much more attuned to breastfeeding than before and can't imagine giving our son anything else!

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? I've always looked forward to the experience of it. Although in the beginning it wasn't easy to establish it; it took a lot of work on my part and a very good LC. I feel triumphant for getting through the rough time and still at 8 months have this wonderful bond with my son. I still think that at 1 year or thereabouts I would like to wean him, but there are times when I think more and more that I will let him continue if he wants and wean himself . . . I'm definitely leaning more towards that direction now than when I first started.

From Ursula ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? My baby is only 5 weeks old, but I've breastfed in public perhaps 8-10 times and in front of all sorts of family members and no one has said anything negative or positive. I've gotten smiles. I've gotten curious children and parents explaining what is happening.

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? No.

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? My mother breastfed all three of us and my sister breastfed her sons, so I imagine they would have been surprised if I'd done it differently. Now my FIL, I was a little concerned about how he would react. He's 70 and very squeamish about even words like "uterus," so I actually imagined him getting up and leaving the room if I BF. Instead, he has been very natural around it. I mean, when I'm breastfeeding, he's as natural as if I'm not breastfeeding. That's rather rare, I think, as even supportive people sometimes act a tiny bit differently when a baby is nursing.

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? My DH is 100% supportive. He believes in it very strongly and does what he can to make me comfortable and well nourished. He makes sure I always have a drink nearby.

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? No.

From Terrilein ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? Just lots of smiles.

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? Not really, see No. 3 & 4

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? Ralf's parents haven't said much on the subject - his mom bottlefed her children. I'm not sure, but I think my Dad and his sisters were breastfed. Anyway he grew up in an environment that wasn't hostile to breastfeeding as long as it was discreet. He was a little surprised that I don't cover up at all when I breastfeed, unless Lauren is fussy, and he mentioned that, kind of "hint, hint, cover up your boob!". I didn't and he got over it.

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? We were very much on our own at first and without S/O we wouldn't have made it. However, my S/O was like my Dad, preferred the discreet thing or better yet, do it at home. He also quickly got over it, especially when he realized we wouldn't be going anywhere if I breastfed only at home.

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? Yes, I too, thought of it only as a nutritional thing and now I can't get enough of it!

From jenb ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? Never an actual "congratulations", but a few knowing smiles.

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? I have never directly been criticised, but I have overheard comments or people have made comments around people I was with.

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? They think it is wonderful.

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? He is THE BEST.

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? Honestly, not too much, I have been gung ho from the very start!

From m ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? Yes!! In St. Croix several local people walked up to tell me how wonderful it was that I was breastfeeding and that it was the best milk on Earth!!

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? No, but my sister has shown me where to go to nurse Frankie before he even needed to nurse (she pointed to a closet-like room at her son's baptism). Needless to say, I went outside, just so not to make her uncomfortable.

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? My parents are supportive, but they don't really understand the major benefits of breastfeeding. They tend to think that it's just another feeding method (that's the impression I get anyway). My in-laws are extremely supportive. My MIL says that in her next life she will breastfeed all of her kids!

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? He's extremely supportive. In fact, when I went to work, I had to come to terms with the fact that Frankie might have to have some formula until I could pump enough. DH was adamantly against it. I was really surprised. He always makes sure to tell anyone and everyone that Frankie is a breastfed baby.

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? I have become more understanding of those that don't breastfeed for whatever reason, because I realize that it isn't always easy and not everyone can get through those tough times and not everyone has all of the information that they need. On the flip side, I'm more saddened by those that don't for whatever reason because it is such a beautiful thing. It gives me so much pride and empowerment. I wish every one could experience what I'm experiencing. It's not 'just' a method of feeding.

From Ramona ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? No

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? No

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? They think that Grace is too old (12 months) to be breastfeeding.

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? Very.

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? I have become much more open-minded about it. I never thought that I could BFIP. And I swore that I would never nurse an older baby.

From melissakro ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? I haven't yet, but I'm holding out for it!

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? I've had looks, especially from older people.

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? My parents are wonderful, and my sister remains my biggest role model. She nursed both of her children past 1 year. The entire extended in-law family is something else. EVERYBODY formula feeds and I am expected not to nurse in front of them. I'm working on this, though.

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? He is fantastic. He loves it when people say what a big boy Ranny is and he tells them it's because of all his mommy's milk!

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? I never thought I would love it like I do. I thought that I would be hung up on the baby being so dependent on solely me. Now I know that I can pump if I need to, but I'd rather be the one feeding him all the time!

From Kel ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? No, I sure haven't.

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? Yes! Well, not to my face, but I overheard it while I was NIP in a restaurant in Houston.

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? My parents support it 100%. This has been a learning experience for them, because I'm definitely a trailblazer in my family with regards to breastfeeding.

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? Steve is my biggest supporter. He absolutely believes that human babies should have human milk, and has no trouble telling people that either. Heaven help the person who ever decides to make a derogatory comment about breastfeeding in his presence! LOL

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? Definitely!!! While I've always been a breastfeeding advocate, even when I FF my first 2, I've definitely changed my position on EN. I used to think that 6 months was enough, and 1 year was the limit. Now I am a big advocate for child?led weaning, and plan on letting Lauren decide when she's done.

From JLE ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? The closest I came to BFIP was at a friend's house. It was all women there who have small kids anyway so there wasn't really any positive or negative comments.

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? see above

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? My whole family thinks it's disgusting. The funny thing is my niece is due in October and planning on breastfeed mostly for financial purposes, but she lives with my mother so she will probably get a lot of slack from my mom, but I already told her not to listen to anything she has to say and to come to me with any problems.

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? DH can be strange sometimes. He works with a bunch of sick pigs so when at work he makes it sound like something sexual, but of course he is great with it around me (probably because he knows I can't ask him to help with feedings this way).

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? Definitely. I think I used to actually look at it as something disgusting until I started reading up on all the benefits it has.

From KandJ ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? No, but I've been a bit slow getting started with NIP. But I'm getting more comfortable all the time.

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? Not exactly. I did have a friend ask me how long a planned on breastfeeding and when I said I didn't know but that I wasn't anywhere near quitting, she was adamant about extended nursing being gross.

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? They think it is great.

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? He is wonderful. He surprised me early on by saying he assumed I'd nurse ds for at least 2 years. And he always says how beautiful it is to see ds and I together when we're nursing. Whenever I don't feel comfortable nursing wherever we happen to be, he helps me find a suitable place. (I know, I know, I SHOULD nurse anywhere--sometimes I'm just not comfortable.)

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? Yes. I originally just thought it was nutritionally best for my ds so I knew I would breastfeed just for that reason. Now I know there is sooooooo much more to it.

From hedra ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? No, though I've gotten the most amazingly supportive and encouraging looks, including from people I'd never have expected it from (the very first time I breastfed in a restaurant, a very dignified and slightly stuffy looking older woman gave me the most gratifying nod of encouragement and support! ? I almost cried!) I've also had people just start asking at other times if I breastfed because DS was soooo chubby, and all of them outright congratulated me on it, so I guess that counts.

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? No, not directly. My mom tried to convince me not to do extended bf, but that wasn't a public/not public issue; she just didn't understand (though she does now!). And I did get one dirty look from someone I knew when she saw me nursing my son at just over a year old . . . she actually got up and left the room! Needless to say, I stopped pursuing a friendship with her at that point. I actually got more thoughtful inquiries from people who just wanted to understand, rather than people who had pre-judged me.

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? All my siblings (with kids) did it, my mom did it, my MIL did it - pretty much assumed that I'd do it, too. Tons of support.

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? He's become a more vocal breastfeeding advocate even than I am! (was always supportive, but now is way more than that!)

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? Only toward extended breastfeeding. I used to think it a bit odd, though not harmful, and definitely NOT for me . . . and then I ended up nursing my son for over three years!

From Acheryl ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? Yes

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? Nope

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? My mom is weird about it, but she never did it so she doesn't understand. My brother has never said anything either way. My SIL is disgusted by it.

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? Very supportive! He knows it's the best thing for our children.

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? I always knew it was something I wanted to do for my child and hoped and prayed I'd be able to do it. I never realized I'd do it as long as I have but not because I didn't want to, just didn't have the experience to know any better.

From Skeeters318 ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? No

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? No

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? MIL thinks it's great. Mom and Dad are skeptical that I'll make it past the teeth coming in. Sisters and SILs are supportive.

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? VERY, very supportive.

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? Yes, I originally thought it was just an economical way to feed a baby. Now, I wish I had done this with my dd as well. I didn't have nearly as much support then . . .

From abuddi ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? No, just smiles, but have had co-workers tell me that they wish they would've breastfed.

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? No, thank goodness.

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? They didn't think I'd last two months. Jasmine is now almost 17 months. My mom was also glad I chose to breastfeed because she said that I was always a sickly baby. Jasmine is very healthy.

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? Very.

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? Definitely. I, like others, thought breastfeeding was just a nutritional thing, but have come to realize that it is SO MUCH MORE and I love it!

From djk42 ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? Once at the grocery when Beth was going crazy, a woman told me to just feed her in line, no one would mind; I said she just ate back in the frozen foods section but thanks and she smiled.

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? Oh yes, plenty of people think toddlers should not nurse, just get bottles. (Huh?)

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? Well, I just don't mention it anymore since everyone but my niece thinks my kids are too old to nurse (my MIL said I should wean because Beth is two now and the WHO says to nurse until a child is two . . . it says at least two but no one seems to read that far).

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? He is the one who tells me to ignore his family (and mine) because what I am doing is the best thing for our kids.

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? I planned to nurse for just over a year, but when Aren weaned/striked for the last trimester when I was pregnant with Beth I was very upset (and tired of people telling me I should be glad he weaned). It began a depression that lasted long after he started nursing again (not sure how much was hormonal and how much was natural grief). I also didn't want to nurse past the age of three (scientists say that a child outgrows the need to suck around the age of three so I thought I would nurse that long if he seemed to need it), but . . . now I know I will nurse him for another few years if he needs to, as long as he stops before he starts college.

From weedsmommy ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? No, but I was in a restaurant and there was another mom nursing and she kind of gave me a nod when she saw I was doing the same.

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? No. But I did have someone ask me if I "actually enjoyed breastfeeding". She was very pro formula feeding and told me that the idea that breast milk is better than ff is a bunch of bull____. She said that her kid was never sick a day in his life and was formula fed and that her DH was breastfed and is sick all of time. What a crock! For every case she can show me that she is right, I've got 30 more that prove her wrong.

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? Everyone is very supportive. My MIL couldn't breastfeed, she was one of those few who didn't produce milk, but she's very supportive of me. She calls herself a 'beef cow" as opposed to a "milk cow" LOL!

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? He's wonderful and has become quite a breastfeeding advocate.

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? Yes, I thought I'd only do it for a few months (6 was my goal), but then I realized that it's so good for both of us to continue. Now I don't see us stopping any time soon!

From Lenore ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? No, but I've had very supportive comments from people who know I'm still nursing.

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? Not directly . . . but a woman at work told me about "this woman nursing in line at Walmart!!" in tones that made it clear she thought it was inappropriate. (I was actually impressed - I can't nurse standing or walking.)

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? Sisters both breastfed, so they've been great. No brothers. Parents accept it, and even FIL (a very reserved man, though nice) was comfortable. Think the older generation would prefer I not EN though.

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? Very.

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? Didn't know it would be so tough to get started . . . feel sad for women who didn't get the support I did. My target keeps changing -- was 6 months, now it's a year. I still don't think I'll be an EN, but "never say never." (But I will NEVER like pumping . . . I do it only because I love my child more than I hate it.)

From serj ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? Not stranger, but friends have at least once.

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? No, well once when dd#1 was less then a month old, I was nursing her and a old women told me I was "too young to be breastfeeding" (I was 18 but that doesn't matter I still had breast and milk!). Anyway I said to her, "I am old enough to be married and have a baby, why can't I give her the best food".

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? Well my mom is an LC and a retired LLL leader; I think I would have been disowned if I had decided not to breastfeed. LOL. So of course my whole family is very supportive.

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? DH is great! Although sometimes he gets mad when I am nursing and he has to get off his lazy butt and do something himself!

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? Well I found out that I don't know everything about it!

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From SusanH ~
  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? Nope, just smiles and I did have a woman show her little girl that "the baby is eating!" once.

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? No, which is probably for the best since I have a lot to say to anyone who does.

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? They were originally quite supportive, I'm not sure how long that support will continue. They may find it weird after age two.

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? Very! He would have been extremely upset if I formula fed.

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? My original goal was 6 months, which quickly changed to one year. By the time she was a few months old I think I threw out the timetables and went with self-weaning. Like so many here have said, I originally thought it was for nutrition and have learned that it goes far beyond it. I also originally thought that "if it doesn't work out, I'll just use formula". Now I will have a very difficult time emotionally if I ever have to formula feed a child.

From taylorsmommy ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? Not when they saw me, but I was getting my tires repaired at a local store and while waiting I went into the rest room and fed Taylor. When I came out to check on my car, they said they had paged me 40 minutes ago and I did not hear while in the bathroom so I told the women I was breastfeeding and she said "wow, that's awesome!"

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? Not yet in my three months of breastfeeding

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? My parents think it is okay, but my mom didn't breastfeed me. When they babysat for us last week, I had breast milk in a bottle to give to her and I forgot to tell them they could use more than one package until she was satisfied and when we came back, my mom said I was starving my baby and dad said I should give her cereal and water! I was so upset and my mom said she cried too because Taylor was so upset. When I told her she could use more than one package, that each package was just how much I pumped in a setting, she felt much better.

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? I have his total unconditional support!! It is wonderful!! He knows Taylor is getting the best!!

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? I think my attitude has changed for the better. I was always positive about breastfeeding and always knew I would, but now that I am, I think it is the greatest thing in the world!!! GO BREASTMILK!!

From luv2beemom ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? People will smile at me, but I don't remember that anyone ever said anything.

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? I've only had people criticize me for hold long I nursed my daughter (she was over 2 when we weaned).

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? Everyone is very supportive.

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? He is a lot more supportive than he was before dd was born. He was somewhat against it then because his mom breastfed all 8 of her kids and was not discreet AT ALL. When my DH was 17, his youngest brother was born and so seeing his mother nurse with no thought of discretion embarrassed him.

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? I guess I am more pro-breastfeeding than I was. I encourage breastfeeding at our pregnancy help center . . . it makes me feel good that through my encouragement, someone else might be able to share in the breastfeeding experience.

From katgirl67 ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)?Not yet. I need to do it first.

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? ditto #1

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? SIL extremely supportive, everyone else is supportive.

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? He wouldn't let me quit if I wanted to. Supports extended nursing also.

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? Boy has it. When I started out, I did it for Max. Now, I do it for me. It makes me feel so in tune with him and so strong. I think it puts me in touch with my nature as a woman more than anything else I have ever done. I also think I am becoming a "lactivist."

From Janessa ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? No, but it would be nice.

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? Not directly. I was once at a new acquaintances house when her husband mentioned how distasteful it was when a woman whipped out "a big old veiny breast" and started nursing. This while his wife was nursing their baby. I proceeded to "whip it out" and fed my son. He had no further comment.

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? Everyone's fine with it. It's just something we're all pretty matter of fact about.

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? Very.

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? Not this time, but with my first, yes. I didn't think I could tolerate breastfeeding for more than a few months and we ended up doing it for 16 months when he self-weaned.

From Kathleen ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? Not that I recall, but I have received a few approving looks.

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? Not directly, but counter to what I wrote above, I have on more than one occasion, gotten a dirty look for doing so.

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? They're all for it. My mom regrets not having breastfed any of her children. The only problem they have is that I don't give my kids bottles. They think I am tying myself down.

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? He's supportive, but because we have struggled so much with James' sleeping, he has on at least one occasion suggested formula. But, since I call the shots when it comes to feeding, it never happened. Other than that, he believes strongly that breastfeeding is best for our children.

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? Not really. I knew when I was pregnant with my first that I would breastfeed and was determined to make it work. I have always felt strongly about breastfeeding my children, and still do.

From autumred ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? No, not yet, but surely someone will someday! I have had several smiles and compassionate looks though.

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? Again not yet, but it might happen one day. I did have one or two dirty looks, but I just smiled back!

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? For the most part everyone is neutral. I know my mom doesn't really care to discuss it and my dad is kind of embarrassed when I feed in front of him. My sister I am hoping to convert by the time she has kids.

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? It was his idea to begin with! However, he has issues about me NIP, but what he doesn't know won't hurt him!

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? YES! My sis and I were both formula fed, but thank goodness for the internet or I might have done the same. I used to be one of those that thought breastfeeding moms should hide, but NO more!

From amybeecroft ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? NO. Seemed most people avoided looking at me when they realized what I was doing. Kinda sad that humans feel embarrassed about something so natural. We really need some deprogramming.

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? NO. See #1

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? My parents were OK. Mom gave me hard time (she never considered breastfeeding with us) because she couldn't give Colin a bottle. Made me feel bad for a bit. Dad was good. Didn't think he'd stay in the room, but he did! MIL thought it was good, since she learned about it when SIL was nursing.

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? My Johnny is #1. He was my water boy at any hour! He even kept a running log the first few weeks . . . time of feeding, how long on each breast, coupled with number of dirty diapers each day! What a saint!

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? At first I planned on EN. Sadly, I had to go back to work at 8 weeks. I tried 5 different pumps . . . couldn't use any of them. Hand expression was too long a process for my non-nursing friendly workplace. Had to go to bottle feeding (heartbroken). I felt good that I got to do it for 7 weeks though. The next one (trying to make him/her now) I am hoping I don't have to go back to work.

From Shra ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? No.

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? No.

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? Everyone is very supportive. I think, I am turning into a role model. Everyone thinks I am very well informed. Of course, my secret is StorkNet .

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? Very. He tells everyone that would listen that dd is so well behaved and healthy because her mother breastfeeds her.

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? To an extent. In my culture, not breastfeeding is a taboo. You have to put your child to your breast. I knew, I would breastfeed. But, I did not think I would breastfeed this long, or would consider self-weaning. DD is 9 months now, and I hope she will continue til she is at least two.

From JennB2 ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? No

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? No, just some embarrassed reactions (looking anywhere but a 10 mile radius of me even though I was covered head to toe).

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? They are supportive of whatever I want to do (which is great since my mom had a horrible experience breastfeeding my oldest brother and formula fed the rest of us).

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? Very. Just last night he told me he was uncomfortable with extended nursing (past 2 years is what he meant) but that he realized this was probably due to socialization and was willing to learn more, keep an open mind if I wanted to do that. He's a keeper!

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? OMG, I am a totally different person about breastfeeding than I was before. I didn't even know if I would breastfeed. I was dreading it but felt obligated to 'give it a go'. Then I my goal was 6 weeks, until I went back to work (11 weeks), then I was pumping at work - something I NEVER even imagined I would do. Now, who knows how long we will go and I have become a huge breastfeeding advocate/mentor to some girls at work who got pregnant after I had DD.

From AmyD ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? Nope, but I try to congratulate other moms whenever I can!

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? Never

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? This one is a hard one to answer because regardless of how they feel they tend to not talk about it. I know that my mother thinks that I nurse my children for too long and the breastfeeding is a luxury.

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? Very.

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? When I was pregnant with my son I was very critical of women that nursed past a year. I just couldn't believe that it was beneficial to anyone but the mother. I thought that I would nurse for six weeks and then bottle feed and that that would be the best thing for my baby and me. I would say that my attitude has changed. LOL!

From Emama ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? Family and friends.

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? No.

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? They think it's great! My mom wanted to send me an article a while ago about the benefits of breastfeeding past a year, but she didn't because she didn't want to pressure me.

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? Very!

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? I had planned to nurse a year and didn't even think about beyond that. Now it seems perfectly normal to nurse for many years!

From GwenniesMom ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? I actually just posted about this last night. See "Got the best card yesterday" post.

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? Twice so far, but wasn't given a chance to respond to either person. Dh and my sister jumped all over them before I got the chance.

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? So far I have had nothing but total and complete support from my family. My mother especially was helpful, going to talk to the LC on her hospital staff to get shields and breast cups when I couldn't find them. My sister was sure to tell me several times a day while they were here how proud of me she was that I was doing this and how wonderful it was. Quite a boost to my esteem.

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? EXTREMELY. About halfway through my pregnancy, I, in a total emotional fit, accused him of not being supportive of wanting to go full fledged into breastfeeding with this baby since with Gwen, I had NO support at all. Since then he's been the one holding my hand the entire way, picking up books, and buying me the breast pump that I wanted just so he could share in it and feed her EBM.

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? I feel sadness and regret at times for not having given Gwen the same benefits that I am now giving her sister and for giving up so easily on it. I realize what a beautiful bond Maddie and I have now and only wish that I could have had that with Gwen.

From Sallly ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? Yes, quite a few people, but especially the employees at Wal-Mart

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? Only DH.

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? My mother and grandmother think I should quit breastfeeding, but everyone else is fine with it. My mom and grandmom don't criticise or anything, they just think I need a break. What better break than breastfeeding your child???

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? He is very, very supportive. After all, he doesn't have to get up at night to fix a bottle or anything. At first he was cautious about me breastfeeding in public, but now he's fine with it.

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? Yes, when I started I thought I would want to quit earlier than I want to now. I plan on letting Morgan self-wean if my milk will stick around.

From ShelleyJ ~
  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? Yes, I've received many, "how wonderful" comments!

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? Not openly, although we've received some odd looks. DH is really good about shooting daggers right back, though.

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? I don't have any siblings, but my parents support me somewhat. They tend to think of TJ still nursing as "odd", but I also realize that they've been brainwashed by some relatives. Plus, I am adopted, and the subject of adoptive breastfeeding was never brought up with my mom, so she never considered it. Also, sometimes I think she may feel insecure that I'm "rejecting" the substance (formula) that she chose to give to me.

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? VERY supportive. In fact, last summer he marched with TJ in a Baby Bjorn for the LLL World Walk for Breastfeeding. I was so proud of my tall, dark, handsome husband marching right in the middle of a bunch of ladies. AND he was able to carry on eye-to-eye conversations with other women while they breastfed! Now, I think he's beginning to be ready for TJ to wean.

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? This question makes me chuckle. First of all, I decided when pregnant with TJ that I would "try" to breastfeed. Then, when he was very young, my doctor told me I had supply problems, so I used the "I don't make enough milk" excuse (SOOOOO annoying!). Finally, I was able to work with a wonderful LC who really told me about breastfeeding, I joined LLL for awhile, and decided that I would allow TJ to self-wean.

From b_moody ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? Yes, I took my Mom to the dentist the other day. There was an old lady there that said, "Oh, It is so nice to see a new mother nursing her baby. I thought everybody used bottles now a days".

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? Not yet, but I have gotten some strange looks and baby is only 8 weeks old.

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? My parents are very supportive. My mom has said she will be glad when she can give him a bottle, but she understands this is best for baby. I have assured her I will let her give EBM when I have enough stored for my days back at work. I would also like to add that my children are very supportive also. They did not understand at first but after explaining to them what was going on, they understood, They have both told me they intend to breastfeed when they have kids. Of course, they are only 5 and 6.

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? He was jealous at first because he wanted to be able to do everything I could, but now he is very supportive. He is very considerate and makes sure I have plenty to drink and everything.

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? Yes. I never thought I would be able to breastfeed in public. I almost did not breastfeed because of this. I am very modest and also thought I would not be able to do it in front of my dad and other male members of the family. I have breastfed in public several times now. I am very discreet about it when getting the baby latched on and all but as soon as he is latched, and there is nothing hanging out, I go right on with my business. Also, I just wanted to breastfeed because it was the best food and inexpensive, but now I love the time when I breastfed my son.

From AquariJenn ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? No.

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? No, but I worry about it now that I'm nursing a toddler.

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? They are in favor of it. My mother nursed all of my siblings and me for at least 6 months, my older sister nursed her twins for 16 months! My MIL didn't nurse her children and is not very knowledgeable about it, but she has an open mind and is willing to learn and be supportive.

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? He is very supportive. He recently asked me how much longer I planned to nurse Katelyn and I said I really didn't know. I don't know if that is an indication that he is wanting me to stop. I know he'll stand by whatever decision I make.

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? I never thought I wanted to nurse a toddler. I always thought it looked odd when I would see other women do it. I also couldn't understand how women could be so emotionally attached to breastfeeding. But now look at me! My daughter is almost 13 months old and there are no signs of us stopping any time soon. I don't think about how it looks. All I know is that it continues to feel right. In fact, it saddens me terribly to think that some day I will have to stop. I love being a breastfeeding mom!

From JenElizabeth ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? I have had a few women tell me what a great thing I am doing.

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? No, but I haven't done it that much.

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? They think it is great, but they also think that we are going to stop in a few months!

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? Very supportive now. At first he thought that I wouldn't need any help because it's natural and would be easy. Now he knows how difficult it can be to get started and he really appreciates what I am doing!

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? Yes. I get really upset just thinking about women getting hassled for NIP. Before I probably would have wondered why they don't just go hide in a bathroom to nurse!

From JksMom ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? A few times, though I've always tried to be discrete.

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? Not that I can recall.

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? My parents are supportive although my Dad and one of my brothers don't think extended breastfeeding is a good thing. This brother once spent an hour trying to convince me that it was time to wean Jon. He was between 18 and 24 months at the time! Jon nursed until he was three!!

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? Yes - although extended breastfeeding makes him uncomfortable. It's not really up to him.

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? Not really. I was once around a woman who breastfed when I was 12 and it just seemed so natural. I've never been sorry to breastfeed and will miss it when Chris weans because he's the last baby.

From danieladaniela ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? Yes, in many countries including the USA.

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? No, but I have felt "looked at" many times. (My baby is almost 16 months now.)

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? I have no siblings; my mother thinks it is good to breastfeeding but I am exaggerating (nurse too often for a 16 month old). She did not breastfeed (thought she had no milk.)

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? Very much. 5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started?

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? No. I have better information than when I was pregnant, but I expected more or less what I have experienced.

From LisaJo ~

  1. Have you ever had someone actually congratulate you when they saw you BFIP (breastfeeding in public)? Yes, at my son's school BBQ, as I nursed Natalie right at the table, and one mom said "Oh I just knew she was breastfed when I saw her! She is so plump and healthy looking and has such beautiful skin." Usually I just get smiles.

  2. Have you ever had anyone criticise you for BFIP? No.

  3. What do your parents and siblings think about you breastfeeding your child? They are totally supportive. It's cool having my 8 year old DS be so comfortable with breasts and nursing. It's not a big taboo in our house.

  4. How supportive is your DH/partner? Very!

  5. Has YOUR attitude towards breastfeeding changed since you started? Yes, I had no idea I would feel SO passionately about breastfeeding. I knew I would do it, but I didn't know how incredibly important it would become to me. Also, I never thought I would nurse an older child, and was taken aback when I first saw older nurslings at LLL, but that became very natural to me as my son grew older.

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