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Self-Esteem CPR
by StorkNet Family Staff

It's February and that means it's prime time for the winter blahs to take hold and suck our energy dry. The holidays are over, the hustle and bustle has settled down and spring seems very far away. If the doldrums seem to have permanently moved in with you, it's time to take action.

Welcome to National Self-Esteem Month. Want to know what your self-esteem has to do with the winter blahs? A person with positive self-esteem won't allow the blahs to move in. They're so busy doing things they love, with people who love them, at places they love, that they're having WAY too much fun to be glum. If the winter blahs are taking hold, check out these tips to give your self-esteem some much need CPR.

  1. Love Yourself
    It's so easy to get caught up in a busy daily lifestyle. Family, chores, work, friends, etc. all require time in order to keep things moving along and healthy. But if you're feeling fatigued, depressed or stressed, these other things will suffer as well. Developing a positive self-esteem is all about recognizing that you come first. This isn't being selfish (unless you care nothing about other people); it's acknowledging that you are worthy of the same love and attention you give to others.

  2. Forgive Yourself
    Life is not perfect and neither are we. Mistakes are made and better decisions could have been made. But what good does it do to dwell on it? Does it change the decision or the outcome? Nope. Cut yourself some slack, learn the art of self-forgiveness and let it go! has some great ideas for cultivating self-forgiveness.

  3. Celebrate Yourself
    When was the last time you acknowledged your good qualities or celebrated your accomplishments? People are typically quick to compliment others on their achievements and but reluctant to do it for themselves. Learning your good and not-so-good qualities keeps you in touch with yourself so you can live an authentic life. Make a 'ta da!' list of what you think is wonderful about yourself. Add all the things that you're proud of achieving. If you want to really go for it, journal or collage about the great things that make you who you are. When you're feeling low, take out the list and remind yourself of how special you truly are.

  4. Support Yourself
    A healthy lifestyle can go a long way in boosting self-esteem. Practice self-care by eating healthfully and getting some exercise. Start small such as making sure you get enough water each day. Once that becomes a habit, add one more healthy habit (i.e. incorporate one fruit and one vegetable into your daily eating). Continue adding healthy things step by step so these little changes become habits without becoming overwhelming.

    Exercise can away blast the winter blahs, and you certainly don't have to run a marathon to do it. Again, start small and work your way up. Are you a total couch potato? Try this beginning walking program or find a beginning workout DVD you can do at home. has an amazing selection for all levels of fitness. Interested in something more challenging? Try the couch to 5k program or check out your local gyms and YMCA. Yoga can be an excellent activity for the winter. It facilitates the mind-body connection which definitely keeps the blahs away. Check out Marianne Elliott's 30 days of yoga. This beautiful program is designed to help you find and keep your own home practice of yoga. You can be a total beginner or a lapsed yogini.

    A little body TLC can go a long way in supporting your self-esteem. It feels good and those endorphins do wonderful things for you.

  5. Honor Yourself
    Spend time doing things you really enjoy. If you like going to the movies, listening to music, taking long relaxing baths, taking up new hobbies, etc., do it! It's up to you to make yourself and keep yourself happy--not once every blue moon, but each and every day. It can be difficult to find time to do something big every day, but small things count too. Read an affirmation, buy/pick a single flower or read a chapter in a book. It doesn't have to be huge or lengthy. Find something simply enjoyable and rewarding - to you.

    Learning to say NO is another way to honor yourself. You're honoring your time and commitments when you say no to requests that don't meet your needs. Need help learning to say no? Check out 7 Simple Ways to Say No. Saying no frees you to try new things, and being overcommitted is one foolproof way to knock out your self-esteem. No one can do everything and do it well which presents another way to honor yourself - kick that perfectionist habit to the curb!

    If you believe you have to do everything perfectly, you will never be satisfied with yourself. If you're never satisfied with yourself, your self-esteem will end up in the toilet. Learn how to set up "conditions of enoughness" as Jennifer Louden teaches. Decide what is enough in measurable terms that are doable. It's an easy system that really works. Read more from What Is Enough?.

    Surround yourself with positive people. Negative energy zaps your positive energy which in turn sucks your self-esteem right into oblivion. If you must be around a negative person, learn to be detached so the negativity bounces off you. Life With Confidence has great tips for learning how to cope with negative people.

    Following through with your commitments is another great way to boost your self-esteem. It helps to cultivate self-trust and that's the golden ticket. When you trust yourself, you know that you can handle whatever comes your way. Talk about a self-esteem booster!

It's easy to fall off the self-esteem wagon when you're feeling stressed and overwhelmed. Failure to make it part of a regular routine is the quickest way. So what can you do to avoid feeling defeated and even bluer? Prioritize yourself. You deserve it! Put your self-esteem goals and actions on your calendar in ink and make a date with yourself. Remember - it doesn't have to be a huge event each day! The little things add up too!

As you practice daily, you'll find the blahs occur less frequently and your confidence begins to soar. Each night before bed ask yourself or journal about the thing(s) you did that day to boost your self-esteem. Make it a habit - a GOOD one that feeds your soul and leads you to a better life. You ARE worth the time and effort.

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