Hello my is Ray, and my twin boys were in the NICU for 1 month 6 days and 1 month. They were born two months early and weighed 2 lbs 8 oz and 4 lbs 8 oz. They were never given oxygen, were only in the incubator and were tube fed with the NG tube through the nose and the mouth.
I personally tell any woman who's child is in the NICU that they are still the parent. Ask ALL the questions they have and not to feel stupid because they have never been through this before. PARTICIPATE in the care of their kids. I bathed my boys daily and fed them. We are already
off of our usual activities due to childbirth so enjoy the birth of your child with your child. It was vital for my sanity. If not, I would be at home
depressed feeling empty because I didn't hear babies crying, only silence. I decided I had to be there morning, noon and night (and I am not saying kill yourself; you participate like you would if he/she was at home). He/she may be small, they may have a lot of tubes and wires but he/she is still yours and will one day not have all of that equipment on them. If you haven't been around, they won't know you like they should.
This was very important for me.
As for what to expect, it's hard. My boys were my first, and I was very cautious and very protective because they were little and very susceptible to colds. So protect your child from any harmful environment and the littlest things can be harmful.
As for the physical appearance of the NICU, it can be very scary. Some babies are really sick and there are a lot of cords and wires that we know nothing about. Like I said before, just ask questions. These are our kids so we deserve to know. Just prepare yourself . . . it is still an
intensive care unit.
Just to update you, my boys are seven months now and are huge. They weigh a whopping 17 lbs and 19 lbs so it does get better and as
long as you remember that and pray, your babies will be fine. God Bless.