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Respect
by Steve McChesney

One of the most important things you can teach your child is respect.

Keep in mind that respect is not the same as obedience. Children might obey because they are afraid. If they respect you, they will obey because they know you want what's best for them.

The best way to teach respect is to show respect. When a child experiences respect, they know what it feels like and begin to understand how important it is.

Keep in mind the saying "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."

Respect is an attitude. Being respectful helps a child succeed in life. If children don't have respect for peers, authority, or themselves, it's almost impossible for them to succeed.

A respectful child takes care of belongings and responsibilities, and a respectful child gets along with peers.

Schools teach children about respect, but parents have the most influence on how respectful children become. Until children show respect at home, it's unlikely they will show it anywhere else.

How can you show respect to your child?

Be honest
If you do something wrong, admit it and apologize.

Be positive
Don't embarrass, insult or make fun of your child.

Compliment them.

Be Trusting
Let your child make choices and take responsibility.

Be fair
Listen to your child's side of the story before reaching a conclusion.

Be polite
Use "please" and "thank you". Knock before entering your child's room.

Be reliable
Keep promises. Show your child that you mean what you say.

Be a good listener
Give your child your full attention.

Children learn from everything we say and do. Make sure that you are modeling respectful behavior. Some of things you can do are:

Obey laws. Follow rules.

Be caring. Show concern for people, animals and the environment.

Avoid poor role models. When you see examples of disrespect, discuss them.

When you set rules at home, explain to your child why the rule is important. For instance, if the rule is "No TV between 4:00 and 6:00" it is because this is homework time and homework is important to keep grades up in school.

Teach your child to respect themselves. Self-respect is one of the most important forms of respect. Once we respect ourselves, it is easier to respect others.

Your opinion means a lot to your child. If you believe your child can succeed, they will believe they can as well.

Build their independence. Give them responsibilities as soon as they can handle them.

Help them set and achieve goals. Their self-respect will skyrocket when they see themselves achieving those goals.

Encourage honesty. Let your child know that they may be able to fool some people, but they can't fool themselves. There is no pride in stealing, cheating, or lying.

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Most importantly, show love! Say "I love you" often and give plenty of hugs and kisses.

If your child makes a mistake, remind them that they are still loved.

Age affects children's respect. Children and adults deserve respect at every age. Here is a guideline based on age:

Babies -- They are too young to show respect but when you meet their needs, they learn to trust you. This helps as they get older because respect for authority is based on trust.

Toddlers -- They are old enough to learn to say "please" and "thank you".

Preschoolers -- This is a good time to teach rules and consequences.

Elementary age -- They show the most respect for adults who make fair rules. It helps to let them have a say in the rules that they are expected to follow.

Middle and High Schoolers -- Allow them to show independence, such as clothing or hairstyles, but make sure you have guidelines. They will appreciate the respect you are showing them.

Steve and Lisa McChesney publish a daily self-esteem building and motivational newsletter. Visit them at http://www.bullyfreekids.com

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