Want Another Baby NOW
By Judith Lolas, MSW, ACSW
Q. My husband and I have a beautiful two month old little boy. I love him with all of my heart. The strange thing is that I want another, if not more, as soon as possible. I don't really miss being pregnant, but, I do love kids. My husband found out about how I feel, by a total fluke, and has mixed feelings about the whole thing. Should I wait and see if this feeling will pass, or am I just really strange? Will it even pass? This feeling just seems to get stronger every day. I want to give this baby everything that I can. I'm just really confused about this. I didn't know that having a baby of my own would change me like this.
A. To me there is nothing strange about the first few months after a pregnancy. We are rushed with so many new feelings, as our hormones adjust to their normal levels again, and we are overwhelmed both with fatigue and joy at our new babies.
I would say just enjoy this child and give yourself about six months to a year to get to know him before you jump into it again. Of course, this is always a personal choice of anyone, and if you continue to feel strongly, talk it over honestly with your husband and your doctor. It should be a decision you both make.