Miss Being Pregnant
By Judith Lolas, MSW, ACSW
Q. I always miss being pregnant after I deliver, and this feeling lasts for a long time. I love when the children are born, and very much enjoy them in every way, but there is a part of me that greatly misses being pregnant. I think it is such a special time, and having a life inside of you and bringing them into the world is one of the most important things we can do. My daughter is 4 1/2 months old, and I still am sad that our special time is gone even though I know the present is also special. These feelings do not take away any joy from the present, but none the less are still very much there.
A. It sounds like you're feeling the letdown everyone feels when a special time has passed, be it birth, a special vacation, a wedding of your child, etc. To some women, they never feel as "womanly" or fulfilled as when they are pregnant, and when that pregnancy is over, they long for that feeling again.
I think you just need to ride it out . . . and focus your energies on being the wonderful, loving mom you can be to your kids. Eventually, something else will take the place of that need you have, and it will pass.
If not, you can always see someone to talk to about it, but it sounds as if you are able to recognize this and perhaps deal with it in time.