Sad After Tubal Ligation
By Judith Lolas, MSW, ACSW

Q. We had our third child in June of 1998. At the time of her birth, we had decided that I would have a tubal ligation. Since having the procedure (2 years now), I have been riddled with guilt and the longing for another child. It is something that is on my mind daily.

A. It's difficult to give an opinion without knowing you or your situation. However, generally, often a decision like this is accompanied by guilt or longing simply because you cannot do it now. You need to ask yourself if your feelings are occurring because you feel you have stopped the possibility, or whether you are truly wanting another child. It's like the finality hits you and whether you want one or not, it affects you this way.

Either way, if the guilt feelings persist, I would suggest seeking some counseling to help you resolve it so you can enjoy the family you do have.

I hope this helps a bit

With Care,