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As
for that inner voice warning you away from alcohol - people who
are hypnotically regressed back to pre-birth sometimes remember
watching over their mother and trying to guide her choices in
the healthiest direction! So maybe Aidan was getting a head start
with you.
Anne:
Is there a general pattern of changes in the 'newborn year' that
most women experience? I know I felt like I was living with my
skin off, like every child was my child. I cried about news of
anyone dying or being hurt, because all of those people had mothers,
who surely must have loved them like I loved my newborn son. My
mom had told me that when we were hurt, she bled, and I finally
knew what that meant--only if ANY child was hurt, I bled.
Eventually it eased a bit, or maybe I regrew some mental/spiritual/emotional
skin. I wondered if the pattern or progression of that experience
is the same for most women, or if it varies or has a lot of different
aspects that some people get and others do not. Also, I know it
took about 6 months for my husband to get to the same end state,
but he didn't seem to get that intense reaction initially. Do
men generally go through the same stages?
Elisabeth:
Hi Anne! I love this question – except that I can’t offer statistics.
With my first book, “In The Newborn Year,” I spent eight years
gathering stories that reveal all the ways we change after childbirth.
So I can talk about this whole rainbow of changes, but it would
take a different type of research to discover the incidence of
these experiences. That said, let me respond that what you describe
is EXACTLY what I felt emotionally and it lasted many months.
And from what mothers have told me, I think that there is a typical
change in newborn time. If I had to choose a few words to describe
it, I’d say “open and connected.”
I
think this change is so important because it creates empathy and
compassion. As one mother said, “Every baby is my baby; every
young animal is my child.” It can be a bonding with our whole
human family and it makes us hurt for other people’s pain. I wonder
what the world would be like if the change were permanent! But
as you said, eventually the intense emotional openness does fade.
I don’t believe that every new mother experiences this change,
while for some it can be scary and disorienting because it can
take the form of feeling too vulnerable and emotionally raw.
I
didn’t get a lot of response from men so I’m less able to talk
about their experiences, but men also speak of new feelings of
connectedness and openness that come from bonding in love with
their newborn. For both women and men, it can even bring moments
of ecstasy, when our boundaries just dissolve.
Katharina:
I have already shared my pre-conception communication experience
with you a few months ago. I now have a son who is three months
old. During my pregnancy I ONLY had dreams of a baby girl, and
one night I even dreamed her name--Maya. Towards the end of
my pregnancy, I started to feel that he was a boy though, albeit
with a very soft, gentle, feminine energy about him. To this day,
people who don't know him automatically assume that he is a girl.
I should add that when he contacted me to let me know he wanted
to be born, he did not really have a sex. He was all spirit. I
wonder if other women have had a similar experience?
Elisabeth:
Hi, Katharina. People who have memories of their own pre-existence
often mention that they seemed genderless as spirit. And when
people sense the approach of a soul wanting to be born, they often
describe a presence that is neither male nor female. So yes, that
is definitely an experience that others have shared with you,
Katharina. And even though consistent dreams of one sex are a
pretty good indicator of who's on the way, it does happen the
other way around too, as you experienced. (It's also common to
have mixed dreams throughout pregnancy, of both boys and girls.)
For
some women, it's very upsetting when the baby is the opposite
of what they expected. They may question their intuition and wonder
whether they were ever in touch with the baby at all. I'm glad
that you don't sound as though you have let it disturb you too
much, and it's lovely that you began to sense the "boyness" of
your baby before he was born. It's really interesting that you
still see a feminine quality around him, too. It brings up the
question of reincarnation, perhaps.
In
Tibet, there is a belief that the child in the womb is remembering
past lives, and that its memories can "bleed through" into the
mother's dreams. Perhaps that is one reason we can have strong,
recurring dreams of a person who is different from the new baby
in some important ways. We may be dreaming together of its past
life, maybe even witnessing its adjustment to the new body. After
all, if we're genderless in the soul world, maybe it takes a while
to figure out the new situation! These are fun and interesting
ideas to play with. Congratulations on your baby!
Anne:
I met my sons long before they were even conceived. But not everyone
has had similar experiences. Two of my friends are struggling
with infertility. Is there anything I can tell them or suggest
that they do that might help them cope with the issues brought
up by their experience, or perhaps even help resolve the infertility?
(I believe that the mind, body, and soul are intertwined deeply,
so perhaps some cases of infertility may be helped by a spiritual
change or action?) I don't want to increase their pain, so of
course I'd proceed with caution, I just wondered if there was
anything more than the usual medical approaches that help, or
help people adjust if it doesn't happen.
Elisabeth:
Most of my information on this subject comes from Teresa Robertson,
a midwife and intuitive who often works with couples having fertility
issues. She has contributed an article to my Light
Hearts website, titled "Fertility
and the Mind-Body Connection," and also a fascinating interview.
What she has found is that we can enhance our fertility by entering
into a dialogue with our body - and with the spirit of our unborn
child. Using guided visualization, she helps her clients to explore
any possible blocks whether physical or emotional. Another suggestion
is to create a "baby altar," which is a specific place in your
house to focus the energy of your desire and intention to conceive.
It's sort of a warm, beautiful welcome mat for the souls who may
be around, and a place to meditate, relax, and send out the invitation.
Katie:
Hi, My husband and I interact lots with our baby. I wondered,
can we 'over-stimulate'? We play music, touch, use a torch etc.
I am 33 weeks pregnant and the baby has been very responsive,
especially to touch since around 27 weeks. Many thanks from the
U.K.
Elisabeth:
I'm not up to date with the latest findings in this area, but
I do have some thoughts to share. First of all, it's wonderful
that you both are starting your relationship with your baby now!
I have heard from fathers who were delighted to discover at the
birth that the baby clearly recognized their voice and turned
toward the familiar sound.
Studies
show that prenatal stimulation has positive effects, yet I think
you are wise to be concerned about the possibility of over-stimulation.
We know that babies spend a lot of time in the womb sleeping and
apparently dreaming. Because we don't know just how important
this natural rhythm may be, I believe it's best to limit the number
of times a day that we burst in on their bedroom, so to speak!
Use the times when you can tell that the baby is probably already
awake and ready to play.
It's
good to realize that the womb is a loud place at best (have you
heard recordings taken inside the womb?) and that music may be
louder than we realize to the baby's ears. And we can't take increased
activity to be a reliable sign of pleasure. I'll never forget
a story David Chamberlain relates in The
Mind of Your Newborn Baby (excellent book!). A pregnant woman
noticed her baby would become more active when she sang loud,
low notes and she interpreted this as a sign of pleasure. But
when the child was two years old, he spontaneously revealed memories
of birth and before - including a complaint that the loud, low
notes had been painful to him!
So,
I think the best course is to continue what you are doing, with
gentleness. The chapter titled "Body Language" in my book, Soul
Trek, describes some of the ways parents have found to play
with the baby in the womb.
Leah:
I just wanted
to share my husband's and my experience with you. When I was pregnant
with my second child, a girl, I just *knew* that she would be
a girl. For some reason, we could not decide on a name for her.
Family and friends did not like the names we had chosen and we
felt at a loss. One day, in my third trimester, we were driving
to the mall when someone cut me off, luckily I noticed just in
time, as if I hadn't, we surely would've been injured. At that
point my husband looked at me and said," Thank heavens for the
grace of God watching us this time." Suddenly, we looked at each
other and exclaimed, "That's it! Grace!!!" At that point, Gracie,
as we fondly call her now, began to turn somersaults. It was amazing!
We had no reactions from her before with name suggestions. It
could have been the adrenaline, the stress of almost crashing,
we'll never know. We like to think that Gracie chose her own name,
and that's how she let us know.
Elisabeth:
Hi Leah, what a lovely story! While I agree that the somersaults
could have been triggered by your body's stress reaction, I think
it's meaningful that you and your husband simultaneously felt
that Grace was the right name. There's so much evidence of telepathy
between parents and unborn baby! Often a name comes in a dream,
or I've had people describe how when they thought of a certain
name they felt a warm glow or a rush of energy, kind of like a
"that's it!" response from within. I think it's quite possible
that Grace chose her own name and found a way to let you both
know.
Sarah:
Hi Elisabeth. I feel that both my husband and I have had pre-birth
communications of different kinds. Both experiences were in the
form of dreams.
I
was in the 14th week of my first and seemingly uneventful pregnancy
when my husband had a very vivid and upsetting dream. He's not
one to remember his dreams, so it was strange that he had remembered
this one, and it had bothered him so much that he told me about
it.
He
dreamt about the baby and that he was carrying her to a building
which he felt was some place of worship. On the way there though
he had to pass through crowds of people who were all surprised
that the baby was still alive and were saying that she should
be dead. With that he said the baby turned into the most beautiful
butterfly he had ever seen and she flew up out of his arms and
away into the sky until he could no longer see her. He described
a feeling of sadness and emptiness, knowing he would not see her
again, and that feeling remained with him when he woke up, prompting
him to tell me about the dream. I actually didn't think much of
it at the time, perhaps just the worrisome dreams of a first-time
parent-to-be. In fact I didn't think about it again until about
ten days later when I went to the ER because of a small degree
of bleeding I was having. It was then that I discovered that our
baby had died, and in fact going by her size had died about a
week and a half beforehand--around the time when my husband
had had his dream. I have since gained a lot of comfort from imagining
our baby as a beautiful butterfly.
My
question, though, is if these tiny souls come back to us on this
earth at later times?
I
am now pregnant again, due at the end of January. I have had several
dreams about the baby I am carrying, but the most profound was
the first dream I had about 'him' (we actually don't know the
sex). This dream was SO REAL and VIVID I can still remember how
intense the feeling of love between myself and my little boy were.
One thing he told me in this dream was that he 'missed me.' I
got the impression that we had been together at some time in the
past and that soon we were to be reunited. He, in particular,
was looking forward to our being together again because he remembered
me, and loved and missed me. He seemed so wise in the dream, yet
so young and innocent, and I remember so clearly loving him so
much!
I
have wondered if this little soul I am carrying now is the same
one that left us the first time around - perhaps it just wasn't
time for him/her to join us then. I am very much looking forward
to meeting this baby--although perhaps not for the first time!
-Sarah
Elisabeth:
Dear Sarah, Your husband's dream was beautiful! As you may know,
the butterfly is often a symbol of the soul, and specifically
of the soul set free through the transformation of death. It's
a symbol that shows up in pictures drawn by seriously ill children
who intuitively know they may die.
You
ask whether souls who leave in miscarriage may return later to
the same mother. For an answer, I turn to the many stories of
little children telling their mother that they are back after
an unsuccessful earlier attempt. Children who are much too young
to be told about previous miscarriages and abortions come out
with statements showing that they remember coming, leaving, and
coming again. You can find such stories in Dr. Gladys Taylor McGarey's
classic book Born To Live and in my Stories of the Unborn Soul,
among others. To know that a soul may want to be with us so much
that it will keep on trying is one of the most beautiful things
we can learn from children who remember.
Your
own wonderful dream experience could be a way of letting you know
that the same soul is returning, or you may remember each other
from another life or a preexistence That combination of innocence
and deep wisdom is often mentioned when parents tell me about
meeting their child's soul in a dream or vision. Best wishes for
your new (or re-newed) baby!
Benny's
Mom:
O.K. I'll come out of the "closet" so to speak. My husband and
I had dreams of our son after his conception, one of which, showed
me how we were connected, and one of which told my husband what
he wanted his name to be and what his talents and interests are.
Since his birth, we have continued to experience our son on many
levels, one of which, is a metaphysical one whereby we see colors
around him and experience life with him as a tantalizing and curious
mix of coincidence and dramatic happenings. Luckily, we have a
deep belief and trust in what we can't see but instead feel with
our hearts as well as a faith in God, otherwise, we would be very
confused and maybe even traumatized as our son has had some health
problems as well as a dramatic entry into the world.
My
question, although I already have my own opinion, is this: Do
you believe that children who are born in today's world are more
"evolved" and more intuitively knowing than their parents were
as children? If so, what do you know about this from hearing other
parent's tell their stories? As well, are you in any way concerned
about the way that more "evolved" children are raised? Do you
have any advice or input regarding the needs of children who are
born aware of the metaphysical? I already have certain opinions
myself about the topic. We are not struggling with this but I
am certainly open to your opinions.
Thank
you in advance I hope that you receive some good questions from
others. We had some interesting threads about our spiritual children
a month ago in the Choices in Childbirth forum on StorkNet's message
board, and know some of us ponder these things with you.
Elisabeth:
Hi, Benny's
Mom. You've asked a very difficult question! Let me start by saying
that I truly do not know whether children born today are more
evolved than we were as children. Nowadays we hear of children
with remarkable abilities and intuitive awareness, but whether
this is really new, or whether it is just safer to talk about
now, I am not sure.
I
can only speak of the little segment of the world that I know,
and this has certainly changed enormously since I was born. We've
had the psychedelic experience, an opening to Eastern wisdom traditions,
plus what we've learned from near-death experiences thanks to
medical science pulling people back from the very brink of death.
These changes, and others, mean that children in some parts of
the world are born into a more open, aware and accepting environment
than perhaps ever before. So it follows that if you are a soul
who can come into the world with a lot of your spiritual awareness
intact, this is a favorable time for arriving! You'll find parents
who are open enough to keep from squelching you and who can foster
your gifts.
As
for how such children should be treated, I don't think there are
special rules. All children need to be treated with respect, and
listened to. The sad story that I often hear from people who (as
children) had pre-birth memories or metaphysical awareness is
that they were shut down, told they were imagining things, or
even punished when they tried to share what they knew. You've
already had dreams giving you precious information, and you have
perceptions that help you understand your child, so it seems like
he is right where he wants to be. No doubt he will continue to
let you know what he needs, and you will continue to "listen."
It sounds like quite an adventure!
Barbara:
I lost my baby recently. She was born on 10/02/02 and passed on
10/08/02. Most of my time spent with her was while she was in
my womb. I strongly felt that I had communication with her during
my pregnancy.
I
was told by my doctor throughout the pregnancy that if she made
it to full term that she probably wouldn't survive birth. (She
was born with acrania and an open encephalocele due to amniotic
band syndrome.) We knew that there were problems from about 19
weeks into the pregnancy, but we didn't know about everything.
Through many ultrasounds we only saw a glimpse of her face once,
on my birthday. But I had a few dreams in my pregnancy where I
took her out of me to see her face. She always looked exactly
the same, with some very minor facial defects but nothing major,
which is how she really was when she was born. I would sometimes
get these pictures of her in my head, out of nowhere, especially
at night, like right before I actually fell asleep, at that point
when you're almost asleep but not all the way. We also didn't
know that she had the open encephalocele. We knew there were problems
with her skull, but not that there was an opening.
But
the night before I had her, I had a dream that I woke up in labor
and her head was out. I reached down to feel it and felt something
sticking out of the top of her head. When she was born and I saw
her, I felt like all of these dreams were messages from her! I
also felt that she comforted me when I was upset. When I would
think about the fact that everyone believed that she would not
survive birth, she would always start moving around. I always
felt completely reassured somehow. It made me feel that despite
what everyone said, we would have some time together. It was like
she knew my thoughts and she was trying to let me know that she
was going to come out and spend some time with us before she went.
I chose to listen to her instead of the doctors. I definitely
feel like she chose me to be her mommy.
But one thing that I wonder is whether or not she knew that she
would only be here for a little while. In her situation, what
was wrong with her wasn't chromosomal--she didn't start out
with these problems. Amniotic band syndrome is sort of an accident.
Do you think that in the beginning, she thought she was going
to be coming to stay until this rupture happened, then she knew
she wouldn't be with us for long? Or do you believe she knew from
the very beginning, before anything was wrong? Do you think that
it's possible that before she was even conceived, that she (her
soul) knew what would happen and that she did choose us? And do
you think by what I've described (my dreams and feelings) that
we had a connection? Thanks so much. Barbara
Elisabeth:
Barbara, you've asked the most difficult question of all, one
that I've wondered about for years. Are there any accidents, or
does everything happen just as it's meant to? I'll tell you right
now, I don't know! But from what I've learned, I think it's likely
that we have at least some freedom to choose and change course
according to circumstances we meet on the way to birth.
One
thing that's evident is that death isn't such a "big deal" to
the unborn soul. Little children talk about having gone back and
waited to come again when the time was right. So perhaps the rupture
in the amniotic sac was one possible experience among others that
your child's soul came to meet. I don' t want to pretend to know,
but the evidence suggests to me that some things are set and some
things are fluid, and the soul has "wiggle-room." There's a chapter
in Carol Bowman's book Return From Heaven titled "U-Turn in the
Womb." It recounts cases where children remember having changed
their mind about being born in one pregnancy, left and returned
later.
It
also seems quite possible to me that your daughter chose the entire
experience - or you chose it together with her - before she was
even conceived. Your dreams about your daughter and your feeling
of assurance that you would have some time together show that
you were truly connected. Sometimes the shortest of times together
bring the strongest feelings of communication.
Liz:
Hello Elisabeth, I have three children ages 17, 12, and 3. I knew
the sex of all of them. I didn't dream of them or received visits,
but ever since I was a child, I have just always known things.
I have walked by buildings and just knew I'd work there. It's
happened more than once without me even applying to those companies.
Most people think I'm nuts by spacing out my children like I did,
but I wanted my time with each one of them to be special. I'm
so happy that they picked me to be their mother. We just found
out that we are expecting again in June. This pregnancy was different.
I had a dream about a beautiful curly headed little girl. The
dream wasn't about anything. She just looked at me for what seemed
like hours. I knew I was going to have another child. I told my
husband of my dream and a month later we got the news. I'm so
glad that others are beginning to share their experiences. We
have been silent for too long.
Elisabeth:
How wonderful! I am intrigued by your decision to space your children
so that you would have special time with each one. It makes me
feel better about the six year gap between my two, which was not
planned--at least not by me. It sounds as though you have
had expanded perceptions all your life, so being aware of each
child's sex was natural for you. In contrast, many people who
have an intuitive knowing about their child-to-be have a hard
time believing it because it is so unusual for them.
I
agree that it is wonderful that we are sharing these stories with
each other. That will make it easier for people to recognize the
experience of communication from an unborn soul, which can be
quite subtle. Best wishes for your new baby, too. Your dream of
her reminds me of another mother who said her dream vision of
her unborn son "seemed to last all night long."
Cora:
I find this topic so very interesting! I want to say, first of
all, that I feel a very special connection already with my unborn
baby. There is a lot of love between us. He/she wants to be born
and live, just as much as I did. I was born very premature, and
almost died shortly after birth. My parents called me their miracle
baby. Later in my life, was told I'd never have children. Something
in me was convinced that I would indeed have a child of my own.
The night I met my husband--my first thought was 'this man
is going to be the father of my baby!'
A few years later, we are having our first child! OUR miracle
baby! We love this baby so very much. I have been working with
a doula through e-mail now for several weeks, recording in a journal
my experiences and communications with my unborn baby (I'm due
in April). Every day we have set aside time for 'interaction',
such as singing lullabies, children's songs, reading books to
the baby, or massage time (massaging my belly), plus time for
simply relaxing. I truly believe that my baby treasures and enjoys
these times as much as I do. I've also started to work with colors...
'breathing' in a certain color as I look at it, and describing
it to my baby. I receive responses from my baby, such as quiet
attentiveness, or activity, or rest. I look forward every day
to spending time with my baby, even though he/she is not born
yet!
Elisabeth:
Hi Cora, your baby is so lucky to have parents like you. Congratulations
on your pregnancy! I really like your idea of breathing in colors
and describing them to your baby. It reminds me of something I
read once long ago, about a native American custom where the pregnant
woman explains to her child (in the womb) about the animals and
plants around them, introducing the child to the world he/she
would soon be entering. It's great that you are enjoying communing
with your baby already, and especially lovely that your husband
is "in the loop" as well.
Kelly:
Hi
Elisabeth. Just wanted to share my story of my daughter's spirit
communicating with me even before she was conceived. About a year
before we conceived her I was at the local public library for
my usual book search. On this visit I became almost obsessed with
a dialogue in my head about how my first born would love books.
In exiting from the library I took the elevator to the first floor
and during this elevator ride I had a dialogue (again in my head)
with her. It was as if she were standing right next to me and
I could even feel her presence of height next to my body. This
dialogue was so intense I found myself turning to the space beside
me to answer one of her questions! A crazy sounding story, but
true! Sure enough my daughter began reading at 3. She is now 7
and her FAVORITE place in the whole world is the library--she
wishes for books for Christmas while other children wish for toys!
And she is absolutely full of spirit just as she was when she
visited me so long ago. :)
Elisabeth:
Kelly,
what can I say but thank you so much for sharing this beautiful
story! I get shivers when I read about these experiences. It doesn't
sound crazy to me at all, and I hope you can share it comfortably
with at least a few people in your life as well. It's interesting
the different places and situations where we get that awareness
of a soul presence. Maybe your daughter already loved that library
even before you conceived her!
Jane:
Do you think we are able to ask the spirit world to give us a
particular sex? I am desperately wanting a boy when we next TTC.
What are your thoughts on this?
Elisabeth:
Jane, I think it's fine to state your preferences to the spirit
world. Some hopeful parents even put forth a kind of checklist
of qualities they'd like to have in their child. We can do that,
but I don't think we can count on getting the results we want--although
I've had parents tell me that their child matched their "wish
list" in every way. If you have a really strong preference, it
seems only fair that you would include it in your "invitation"
when you send out your welcoming thoughts towards the world of
unborn souls. But it's important to be open to accept whomever
you receive. I think that our conscious minds don't necessarily
know what we need on the soul level. Here's wishing that whoever
comes to you next will be the perfect addition to your family!
Benny's
Mom:
Hi Elisabeth. I read your response to my questions and initially
it seemed to me to make sense. It still does. However, I think
that there is one difference between the needs of children
today vs those born 10 or 15 years ago.
In
my practice as a child therapist I've seen this countless times
as well so as I think about my own child I try to keep this in
focus. Children whose parents raise their children the way that
they were raised are clinically vulnerable. I've often seen parents
"learn through their children" what they didn't get from their
parents as if having a sensitive, aware child challenged the parent
to keep growing. Of course, your point about a child finding themselves
where they need to be and the world being a more open and aware
place (at least in the free world) is certainly true. However,
I also see that parents do indeed need to be "more responsible"
to their own growth as a result of knowing children than they
may have needed to be 10 years ago. I would often see five-year-old
children with numerous psychiatric hospitalizations. This was
unheard of in previous generations. Whether this is because of
their child, an agreement between child and parent before birth
or the energy of a more aware consciousness of the planet, maybe
it's all of the above. I think parents used to be able to get
away with many more parenting "mistakes" and a child would not
have an awareness of the mistakes and therefore not feel the extent
of psychic pain that they do now. They would feel it as a teen
or a grown up. Now, very young children know something is wrong
in their families and talk about it, in fact, are the force behind
the family change.
Even
though my child is only 10 and a half months old, I seem to have
a more heightened awareness of all my flaws right now, and have
been shifting and changing a great deal because of my child. I
just wanted to add that thought, although, it's not really a question.
Do you have anything further to add to this?
Elisabeth:
Hi, Benny's Mom. When I read your earlier message, I didn't realize
you were describing a change in children over just ten or fifteen
years. If there has been such a change, I haven't been in a good
position to observe it. My own children are sixteen and twenty-two,
so the young people I know well are from that generation. Were
they less sensitive children than the generation born today? It
seems too broad a generalization, but then again if you've been
counseling children over many years, you may be noticing trends
that I don't see.
I
think what you are saying is that today's children seem increasingly
sensitive and aware, and that they are both more vulnerable to
and more observant of the world around them. My focus has been
on evidence of awareness before birth, and in the stories I've
gathered over the past eighteen years, I don't see a change in
the "essence" of the souls arriving. But the social environment
has changed--every nuance of psychology and every intimate
situation is out in the open now, from Oprah to tabloids to Jerry
Springer! You suggest that children fifteen years ago were less
sensitive to psychic pain than today's children. Perhaps it seems
so because, as we have opened everything up to be discussed and
questioned in public, we've provided children with the language
and the context to express things they could not express in earlier
times.
Mayra:
I do not have a question, but think you will enjoy my story. In
1999, while meditating, I always had a vision of a little girl,
in the sun. I would embrace her very strongly and feel a maternal
bond. I remained bonded to this little girl (in spirit). I would
ask her where she was, and always told her I welcomed her in to
my life. I am now 20 weeks pregnant and am convince this is the
child I saw, who is now ready to leave the spirit world. I knew
the baby's sex and her name (Luna) even before the results of
the amnio. I would love to hear your comments since, most people
do not understand this. Kindest regards, Mayra
Elisabeth:
Hi Mayra, I enjoyed your story! Meditation is one of the most
typical settings for a visionary meeting with a future child.
Congratulations on your pregnancy! As you mentioned, many people
don't realize that these pre-conception contacts are possible.
I hope Luna's daddy is open to the possibility, so you've been
able to share the experience with him.
Anne:
How many people have pre-birth contacts? Does anyone have an estimate
of how common it is? It seems that in the group of people I know,
at least one in ten has also been contacted by a child's soul,
though some have declined the invitation to become mothers. One
knew she was going to conceive (accidentally) because she saw
a brilliant light enter her body through her head, and felt him
there with her (knew he was a boy). Another told me that there
was a little boy who followed her for ten years before she had
to tell him he'd need to find another mother (she was over 40
by then, and no partner in sight). Yet another didn't see her
own kids, but saw one of mine, before I was certain I was pregnant.
Another asked for a soul to join her because she had spent two
years trying to conceive with no result--when she actually
asked, she felt a presence respond, and that was the month she
conceived (her daughter is a gem, too). Another saw her son after
she had an abortion, and has seen him every few years since (she
was 15 when she terminated the pregnancy, and he doesn't seem
to be angry or upset, just looking for another chance to be born).
I don't know if my experience (knowing so many people who have
had that contact) is common, or if I've self-selected a group
of people more likely to have these experiences. Certainly, people
seem to tell me their stories--I usually tell mine first,
though, LOL!
Elisabeth:
Hi Anne, those are some wonderful examples of pre-birth communication.
The vision of a bright light is often part of the experience,
especially around conception. It's intriguing that the woman who
had been trying to conceive for a while was successful after she
actually asked (there's a good suggestion for other people who
are trying!). But I don't have a real answer for you, as to how
common pre-birth communication really is. As I explained in response
to another question, the way I've gone about gathering stories
doesn't lead to that sort of information. It would be great if
someone wanted to do the research to find out--but it wouldn't
be easy.
Supposing
you went around asking a random sample of the population. "Did
you experience communication or contact with your future child
before birth or even before conception?" I'm guessing you would
not get a very high proportion of "Yes" answers. But
then if you explained about all the ways that unborn souls may
communicate, and how very subtle some of the experiences can be,
you'd see people beginning to think back and maybe see some of
their experiences in a new light.
As
for your many friends with such experiences, I think it could
well be due, in part, to your own openness and readiness to share
your own contacts!
Linda:
Hi Elisabeth! I'm pregnant with baby #5, but the most interesting
story I have is with #4. Almost 13 years ago I got pregnant for
the first time. 15 weeks into the pregnancy I lost the baby. I'd
had three very distinct dreams indicating that the baby had died,
so once the doctor confirmed it, I was not terribly shocked. No
one was able to confirm the gender, but I always felt in my heart
that the baby was a boy. Nine years later I'm pregnant with baby
#4. First of all, I had planned on this one being a Samuel. But
an incredibly vivid and tangible dream told me that this was Andrew
(a name we just would have never thought of). Sure enough, four
months later Andrew arrived. A couple of weeks after his birth
I was asking my almost four-year-old son what he thought of his
baby brother. He told me that Andrew was not his baby brother.
I asked him what he meant. He told me that Andrew was his big
brother, but that he had died, and now he was back to be with
his family again. I have to tell you, I absolutely believe this
to be true. Number five has not revealed their "self" to me yet,
but what I do sense of this little one is truly an air of playfulness,
and I can't wait. Thank you for this book. Linda
Elisabeth:
Linda, what a beautiful story. It is a perfect example of the
soul awareness that little children so often manifest. Somehow,
they know the comings and goings of unborn souls. I have heard
other stories similar to yours, in fact one chapter of "Stories
of the Unborn Soul" is all about this wisdom of children. It's
wonderful that we are beginning to listen to children. They have
a lot to teach us, from their memories of pre-existence and awareness
of the souls around them. Best wishes for your new arrival!
Nancy
(StorkNet): Thank you so much, Elisabeth. This discussion
has been enlightening, comforting and very interesting. So many
of our members have come forth with beautiful stories and personal
thoughts. I myself was reminded of when my second son was born,
after a previous miscarriage. I looked at him with peace and felt
as if I'd already known his spirit once before. I remember my
words, "Oh! There you are!" as he was born. I find such spiritualism
in these connections. We hope you will come back and visit again.
Thank you from StorkNet!
Elisabeth:
Thank you for inviting me to participate in this guest interview!
I have so much enjoyed the thought-provoking questions and moving
personal stories. I hope that many of you will visit my website,
Light Hearts, where I'll continue to share stories and articles
on pre-birth communication as well as postpartum changes. I would
just like to mention my newest "baby" born in January 2003 --
a book of poetry titled "Still Mystified: The Poems in my Life."
Thank you again for a truly rewarding conversation.
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