Weeks 1 - 6
~ Telling Work
Ok, where to begin? On January 9, 2007 I was told that I was pregnant and since I had no idea of when this occured, my doctor decided to do an ultrasound. Well, there was nothing there. No baby, no gestational sac, nothing. My doctor then decided that we would run some blood titers over the next week and a half to make sure my hcg levels were coming up as they needed to indicating pregnancy was progressing normally before repeating an ultrasound. They came up tripling every three and a half weeks or so. They decided on February 14, to do the other ultrasound and it was then I was 6 weeks and 4 days pregnant. That was the best Valentine's day gift I ever have gotten! Getting to see our little baby, although it looked like a grain of rice with a beating heart and hearing that little heartbeat was more precious than anything I have ever experienced in my life. As the mother of two other children, I remember each time I heard their heartbeats and it absolutely was unlike anything I had ever felt or experienced in my life. It doesn't matter if it's your first child or tenth, that first heartbeat is enough to make you fall head over heels in love with this little person you have never even known! To watch my husband watch our child on that screen also made me fall in love with him all over again. This is his first child (my last) and to see the wonder on his face as he looked at that little spot beating and racing so fast was beyond any words I could ever come up with to explain.
I decided that because of my work field that I needed to go ahead and tell my employer about my pregnancy. I did not want to run the risk of something possibly happening and then them trying to terminate me because I did not disclose my medical condition. My first step was human resources; nothing major there as the director of human resources was out of town and I told the lady that works under him. Then I went to the Director of Operations. The very first thing out of his mouth was "what are you going to do about your job"? I shrugged it off and informed him my intentions right now were to do what I had been doing for the past nearly three years, WORK. I asked about what would happen if I were taken out of work early or whatever, how would I need to or what would I need to do to preotect my job. His comeback to that was "what do you mean come back"? I said, "you know when the doctor releases me to come back to work and I do, is my job going to still be available"? He then asked me the stupidest question I ever heard, "What are you going to do with your baby"? Number 1: This is not MY baby, it's our baby, my husband's and mine. Number 2: That decision is between me and my husband as to what we do with our child. As long as I have dependable child care and an emergency back up in case the baby is sick or the person watching the baby is, that is all that he should be concerned about. (Sorry, my opinion had to make itself known.) I told him that my plans were the same thing as every other working parent in America, child care.
Needless to say, he kinda got under my skin and on my nerves and I then went to our company's President, who was very understanding and very supportive and willing to work with me any way I needed. I also let him know that my immediate supervisor had really ticked me off and while he tried to hide what he thought about what was said, it must have gotten to him a little too, as the next day and (so far) every day since, my boss doesn't speak to me other than to say "how are you doing or how are you feeling." Which is the way I prefer it.
Now back to human resources which also happens to be our safety director . . . when I told him about my news when he got back in town, though he wasn't as offensive as my immediate supervisor, he did tell me that pregnancy was a serious medical condition (my doctor got a huge laugh out of that term) and that he needed something in writing from my doctor stating it was ok for me to continue my duties. I called her and explained what they were needing and ended up having to take a day off work to go and get this letter. He also sent me with a detailed job description to make sure she fully understood exactly what I do. My doctor got a little offended by this but provided him with a note. When I gave it to him, since she said that she was aware that he wanted to be kept posted if things should change, that she would update when and if they did. Well, he told me then that he needed something every time I went to the doctor. Do you know how often you go to the doctor when you're pregnant? That's if you're not having any problems! Well, I will play their game for now, mainly because I need to work to pay my bills and help support my family, and I do understand that they do not want or need me out there working if I have something serious going on. I will do that to protect me and the baby.
Well, that's about it for the first 6 weeks, I will update 7 through 12 and then start my weekly entries.