Week 27 ~ December 22, 2002
~ Happy Anniversary!
Tom and I celebrated our 13th wedding anniversary last weekend. I still don't know how it is that we've been married that long. I used to have a nanny that would help me with Maddie on Fridays, but she had a baby back in September and I didn't replace her. Frankly, she's irreplaceable. She's that good. I asked her a few weeks ago if she was up for making a little holiday spending money so Tom and I could go out and enjoy our anniversary without having to entertain Maddie and she said was up for it. I told her to bring the baby if she wanted, and suggested it might be a good diversion for Maddie. Well, it couldn't have worked out better! Maddie could have cared less when we left. It was all about the baby!! Tom and I felt very comfortable leaving knowing Maddie would be in good hands and very occupied for the night! Lol! We had a really lovely time, although it was difficult to not talk about Maddie and Ally. We did a lot of reminiscing about past anniversaries and how we spent them. I was telling a friend that our 13th anniversary was coming up and she said, "Wow! That's a long time! And it takes a lot of work to keep a marriage together for that long." I shared that comment with Tom at dinner that night and his response was the exact same as mine was. It's not work. Not now anyway. It WAS work in the beginning. The first five years or so were not anything near what I would call easy. But gradually over time, they started to get easier. I hate that word - easy. It makes it sound like we're lazy or complacent in our relationship because we're not. I feel very secure in what we have now. He's a wonderful husband and a terrific dad. Maddie and I (and baby Ally) couldn't be luckier.
When Maddie turned one, I took her to have her picture taken professionally. I had a few taken with the two of us. The picture of me holding Maddie up in the air is Tom's all-time-favorite picture. As corny as this is going to sound, the picture brings tears to his eyes when he looks at it. We have this picture in our family room and I catch him staring at it all the time. As one of my anniversary presents to him, I had a smaller print made for his office.
We were talking about how often we used to go out and I remember how I felt before Maddie was born. We went out to dinner all the time, sometimes 4 or 5 times a week. We were going to movies, sleeping in late, doing whatever we wanted to do. I felt this need to try and get all of that out of my system! Waiting the birth of baby Ally has been just a little different. Ha! More like a lot different! First of all, I need to be in bed by 9pm because my toddler wakes up between 6 and 7 everyday! It's just funny to me how our lives have changed. It was this perceived lack of a social existence that scared me to death about having children in the first place. I think Tom and I will be lucky if we make it to dinner (without Maddie) two more times before the baby is born. Pathetic, eh? Well, I am happy to tell you that my social life is actually better than it has been in a long time. It's different than it used to be. Most of the activities are centered around children these days, but that's ok. My days are filled with playgroups, lunches and shopping excursions for little girl clothes instead of nice dinners with expensive wine, eating lunch at my desk and shopping trips to Ann Taylor.
I was going to brag about how I haven't been plagued with pregnancy induced insomnia this time around. I still not getting it as much as I did with when I was pregnant with Maddie but I did get hit with it the other night. I woke up at 2 am WIDE AWAKE. Hungry and unable to go back to sleep. I tossed and turned for an hour. Got out of bed and went downstairs to raid the fridge and play on the computer. I discovered how full my tummy feels after drinking a quart of egg nog! And the computer screen looks incredibly bright at 3 in the morning! I finally went to bed at 4:30 and after tossing and turning for an hour, I think I feel back asleep around 5:30. I almost died when Maddie was up at 6:15. I'm hoping I don't have too many nights like that again, especially this week! I don't want to be awake when Santa comes! That would spoil everything!