Hello! My name is Candice. I'm 29 years old. I live in Cape Town, South Africa and work as a customer care consultant at a book store. I have been married to Francois (34) for 7 and a half years, but we have been together for nearly 12 years. I am a freelance writer in my spare time, but hoping to make it a more permanent job in the near future. I am writing a novel which I hope to publish one day, when I finally get around to finishing it. I also love to sing and dance and did modern dancing professionally for 5 years when I was younger.
Francois and I got engaged after just 3 months of seeing each other. We were not in any rush to get married, as we both felt we had plenty of time for that, however we desperately wanted a baby. In fact, I had wanted a baby for as long as I could remember - and had made up my mind very early that I was going to be a young, hot mama. Finally, at the age of 22 (after 3 years of trying), I got my wish. In September of 2006, straight after a weekend holiday with friends, we popped in at the pathologists for a blood test - my period was 9 days late. That same evening I received the much-awaited call from my doctor with the good news! I was already 5 and half weeks pregnant.
My pregnancy was not easy, and I suffered lots of little niggles, but in the end it was all worth it. I was induced at 39 weeks due to high blood pressure and was in labour (drug-free) for 11 and a half hours in total. My son, Storm, was born without help at 16h55 on the 18th of May 2007. He weighed 3,820kg with a height of 55cm. We were over the moon.
Unfortunately, our joy was to be short-lived. I have Bipolar disorder and was without medication for the most part of my pregnancy; however at around 7 months pregnant I became depressed and anxious and my doctor prescribed Espiride. This seemed to work well until 2 weeks after the birth, when I developed severe post natal depression. It got so bad that I considered giving my son away, as I didn't feel that I could be a good mom to him. Thankfully, I have a very good support system and knew I needed help; so when Storm was 4 weeks old my doctor put me back onto my mood stabiliser and anti-depressant. As a result, I had to stop breastfeeding which was very sad for me as I really enjoyed it.
There is a lot more to tell about the first year of Storm's little life, but since this entry is already so long, I'll leave that for another time.
I am currently 14 weeks pregnant with our second little miracle and we are all so excited and happy! We only seriously decided to start trying for another baby in February, so it was quite a shock when we discovered that we fell pregnant again so quickly. But I'm very glad it worked out that way, because I stopped taking my medication in anticipation of getting pregnant and being off my meds for too long is not a good idea for me! With my doctor's okay I have since started taking my meds again so that I can slowly get onto my full dose before baby is born - to avoid developing PND again.
I hope you will enjoy sharing in this happy journey with us and I look forward to the months ahead.
P.S. It's a boy!
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