~ "Big Sister"
Jeff and I chose to get through the first trimester before telling Julia. We just didn't want her to have to deal with the sadness if something happened. By the tenth week, we both felt like we really wanted to share the news with her. We decided to tell her after my next ultrasound appointment.
My appointments are early in the morning - usually 6:30am. That allows me time to get home before Jeff has to go to work. When I got home, Jeff and Julia were eating breakfast. I set the ultrasound photo in front of her and asked her if she knew what it was. She replied, "A picture of me?" I said, "No. Your pictures are in your scrapbook." A small smile started spreading across her face. "Mama - Baby," she said. I wasn't sure if she meant the ultrasound was of me as a baby or what. After some clarification, she said, "Baby in Mama's tummy," with a huge grin on her face. I asked if she knew what that made her and she said, "Big sister!" Then she asked, "Is it a boy or a girl?"
During the day, I asked her what nickname we should give the baby. After some thought she said, "Baby." "Are you sure? Because that's what I call you," I told her. She thought a little more and replied, "But it's really a baby!"
And later that evening when she was in bed, she asked me, "So what's happening with that baby, Mama?" "Well, I don't know exactly," I told her. "It's sleeping, right? Because big sisters are going to bed and a little baby needs to be sleeping, too," she declared.
I think she's going to be just fine with a new baby!