I got an encouraging email from a caring reader and it couldn't have been at a better time. She helped me analyze things from a different perspective. One thing that she mentioned was stress and ways to deal with it. She had a lot of great ideas, which made me think about my day to day life and see if I'm doing things to actually distress, or if it's something I need to look into further.
1. The best thing I do for stress is talking. Mark is such a great listener and we get through things together. I also use this journal (and a monthly blog) therapeutically as well. I love to write down my feelings and it's almost like I'm talking to you!
2. Spending quality time with my family. Mark and I recently read the book "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. It's a great book because it makes you analyze you and your spouse's primary love language, as well as your secondary language. When you learn the information about yourself, you also are able to learn what your spouse's love languages are so that you both can speak the same language. In other words, there's 5 ways people feel loved. If you and your spouse learn what they are so that you can show them that love in the way that they appreciate it most, then it opens up so much in your relationship. My primary love language is quality time and therefore the way I feel the most relaxed and ultimately, loved, is when we spend time together as a family. The most relaxing thing I can do is spend time with my family!
3. Kickboxing. I do a form of kickboxing/MMA and it's so much fun and such a great stress relief. When I am punching or kicking the bags, if there is something that is bothering me, then I am just getting out all of my frustration. Also, when I am doing some of the combinations or sparing, there's no room in your mind to be worried about something, because you have to focus on the task at hand. I try to go to the gym every day of the week. When Mark is off a weekday, we usually will do something active as well. I find that staying active is such a huge stress relief! When I am not able to do something (even as simple as taking a walk) then I find my stress build up.
4. Mindless TV or reading. Mark and I got rid of our cable/satellite TV, so we just have Netflix now. I find that reality TV shows (as unrealistic as they are), really do take my mind of off everyday things.
I have a routine where I go to the gym at lunch so I can leave from work and pick up Adisyn. Then I can spend as much quality time with her as possible before she has to go to bed. She goes to bed pretty early (usually between 6:30-7), so I like to get in as much as I can in that period. After she goes to bed is my relaxing time. I usually shower, eat a light meal and watch a TV show until Mark comes home later that evening. I really feel relaxed and even though I feel like I've gone non-stop all day, this is my time to unwind.
There are some things I have to work on. I really haven't been getting enough sleep. I love the quality time with Mark, but since he gets home so late, we have little time to unwind. I find myself going to bed late, then, for some reason, I've had a hard time falling asleep and/or staying asleep. It's been a real problem, especially these past couple of weeks. I know that this can put an extra burden on my body, so I'm really trying to work on it. Overall, I feel like my stress relief pays off. Knowing what I need to work on, will give me a better opportunity going into this cycle. I have a GREAT feeling about this cycle!
Thank you so much to all the readers and your support! I really appreciate you!
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